Praise the Lord, and thanks to all who have been praying. It makes a difference. <P>Four months ago, I found out about H and OW.<BR>Three and one-half months ago, he moved out.<BR>He declared he would never be back.<P>When I really dug into the scripture, desiring to be only what God wants me to be,<BR>H began calling me once or twice a week, seemingly to talk. The Fourth of July, he took me to lunch, invited me into apt. for soda, and told me he was glad I wasn't moving any time soon. The next day, his birthday, I took him to dinner and gave him some small gifts I knew would please him. Although I knew he was hurting due to OW telling him to cool off, we spent five hours in two restaurants talking and enjoying each other's company. <P>I haven't heard from him since, but I am continuing to thank God. I know He is working with us. Pray that I will do only what God leads.<P>For all of you out there, get serious about praying Scripture. It really works.<P>Bless you all,<BR>Committed

Praise the Lord for HIS many blesings!<BR>I am delighted to hear GOD changing your situation. As to mine, it is increasingly deteriorating. She will not even speak to me at all, unless it concerns our daughter. She left me a five page letter, outlining all the things that are wrong with me. And then basically left it saying there was NO way of EVER getting back together, in heaven, in hell, or on earth, there was no way we would ever be together again.<BR> GOD says to hold on..... but it's hard to believe HIS promise that ALL will be restored when it all flees with such a determined effort. She says she is truly happy for the first time in her life and will never give up this happiness she has found. I can't defeat that. We spoke briefly on the phone tonight to arrainge for her to pick up our daughter. She won't come get her, and is sending the 18 year old and his fiance to get our daughter...... Afraid to talk to me. Says she is uncomfortable being around me, knowing I would never hurt her.<BR>Someone told me the other day that GOD was using me in a mighty way and they felt GOD layed it on their heart to tell me that I must be completely broken before the healing and restoration begins and GOD honors HIS promise to me in restoring my family. Use me how? How much more broken must I be?<BR>I'll continue to pray for you and your family and I ask that you don't stop praying for this family as well. She is filing for divorce on the 15th of this month. I don't see anyway at all to stop her, short of a miracle. I will have to sell this house and find an appartment so I may be offline for a few days. The only place I am truly uplifted, and I may have to be away from it for a while...... Another test of faith I suppose.<BR>Bye for now. Again PRAISE THE LORD for the things HE has done in your family.<BR>GOD Bless you and keep you<BR>Lone_Knight.<BR>

Lone Knight,<P>Thank you for your reply. At eleven that evening, H called me and asked if I could talk. He had called off the relationship with OW, and was ready to talk. Was I surprised? Totally. It seems not too long ago that I was hearing "I'll never be back, no matter what happens. I cannot live with you."<P>Well, I was in such great pain at that time. I stayed on the board, reading mostly, and continued praying for God's will. I read everything I could on the subject. I examined my part of our 7-year marriage. As I recognized things I needed to change, I began to effect the changes. Needless to say, I feel better about myself. I got book from Restore Min. and immersed myself in it. It is really a book on living the Christian life, with an occasional reference to marriage and divorce. It is hard to wait on God, but His timing is perfect.<P>The petition for divorce has been filed, and I have yet to be served. My H has put off contacting the attorney again to continue process. We are taking things slowly, but he mentioned counseling, so please continue to pray.<P>A month ago, we were far away from this. As many on the board have said, the positive things happen when least expected. It is very important that you are not double-minded about this, as hard as it may seem. In Psalm 27, we read, "Be still, and wait on God." In Mark 5: re read, "Don't be afraid, just believe." Keep repeating these, they have really helped, and are short enough that I could remember them!<P>I WILL CONTINUE LIFTING UP YOU AND YOUR WIFE IN PRAYER.<P>Thanks to the Lord for His perfect knowledge and guidance for all, not just a few!!!<P>Committed