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#336997 07/14/00 10:37 AM
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My husband came home 3 weeks ago from the mountains a different person. He told me that he didn't know what was wrong, but he has been feeling this way for awhile. I found a home & work phone number of a girl from the mountains. Over the next two weeks, he was never home, ignored me, wouldn't tell me he loved me or kiss me. He changed his pager number and I found it going off two mornings - she was paging him. Last Friday, he told me that he had no feelings for me and that I cried all the time and nagged him. He said he would try to make it work but he couldn't promise anything, because he couldn't pull feelings out of a magic bag. He said to give him the weekend. I did. He said he was going to work late Friday, but come to find out he didn't go at all. I believe he went to visit her 3 hours away. He didn't come home until 9:00 Sunday night. He said he was staying at a friends house. I checked his bag when he came home and his shirt smelled like a hotel room and I found a condom in his shaving bag. He then told me that he didn't want to make it work and that I was pathetic. I packed his clothes and he moved everything out of our house that evening. WHAT HAPPENED? I need prayers. I feel that it is my fault and I still love him.

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Mary Kay,<BR>Ok, you're going to get the pep talk I have been getting. It is NOT you, it is NOT your fault. He is searching for the Lord. That is what his problem is. My husband is doing the same thing basically but his true love is alcohol. OW are a side affect for him. <P>Is it something about being in the mountains? My H has been working in the mountains of northern CA and came back with a thoroughyly changed attitude, changed for the worse. All we can do is remember to leave them at the foot of the cross and let our Savior Jesus take care of it....<P>Dear Lord, I lift up Mary Kay to you asking that the Holy Spirit comfort her, give her abundant peace and love. Father she is hurting so much, please erase the pain from her heart and soul. Lord, I ask that the Holy Spirit overwhelm her husband with conviction, and that anything done in secret shall be made manifest. Lord I stand on Your word that tells us with God NOTHING is impossible. Turn this husband's heart dear Lord. Let him see his wife through Your eyes. Open his ears Father to the Truth. Let him see the OW for what she is, an evil harlot being controlled by Satan. In the name of Jesus I bind the spirit of adultery and loose the spirit of fidelity in Mary Kay's husband's life! Thank You Jesus, we claim the victory that You have already paid the price for !!! Show this dear sister how much You love her and will take care of her. Fill her with your peace Lord. IJN I pray AMEN and AMEN!

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TO Alcoholic's Wife:<P>Thank you for your prayer. I truly appreciate it. I know that I cannot do anything but pray at this point. It is so hard to get through even an hour of one day right now. I am so lost and alone and he is gone. I asked him if this was it and he said "pretty much".<P>I am sorry you are also going through pain. Is your husband still with you? I am sure it must be so hard to stand by him day after day. Please let me know.<P>Mary Kay


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