My H has been in involved in an EA since before christmas. I knew something was wrong but did not know what. He was depressed and withdrawn and just got worse. I asked what was wrong - standard answers - nothing, I do not want to talk about it. I even asked if there was someone else several times and it was always no. <P>I finally had had enough and pushed him for an answer on 6/23 and he admitted to having someone he talked to and that they had kissed. I was told it was nothing, she was just a friend, that it was only a month or two, that she was going to work on her marriage and that it was over. I believed it was over and went immediately into Plan A.<P>Well 8/4 I find out she left her H 7/1 and moved into an apartment near their workplace and they had been seeing each other the whole time I was giving him his freedom and space. That is the night he left me to move in with her. I had no clue and was caught completely off guard.<P>I have since found out so much it is unbelievable. He has been lying to me for so long. His friends have been lying to me. Suspicion is that he cashed in a weeks vacation (fact) to pay for the apartment but he did not leave me for another month. He will not/can not give me any reason except for things in the past 6-8 months and I agree with him because there was a problem - only I did not know what it was.<P>He only tells me he does not love me, he is tired of being dumbed on, (he only sees the negative of everything), he is not happy and is not going to live like this. We had a very happy marriage. Even up until he changed last year we were happy.<P>He is still lying to me, he will not talk to me about anything and he has alientated his daughter. He is not making an effort to do anything with her and she is devising her own ways not to be around him. Meanwhile he is doing things with OW S that he did do with her.<P>One week after he left me she (OW) shows up at a family work detail and he takes her to the fire hall sunday morning for breakfast. I still can not believe he has done that. I feel it is moving way too fast and has to crash soon. So many people had no idea and he shows up with her. How do I face these people and what do I say?<P>I have not called him, gone back there and even gone by places I know he would be yet I have seen him or talked to him every day except 2 so far. I am seeing so much pain, conflict, confusion that it breaks my heart. He certainly does not look like some one who is with the love of his life and he has not professed that to anyone either. In fact he has not said anything about the relationship except maybe to those who are not a good influence on him and they happen to be the only people talking to him right now.<P>They only thing he keeps telling me is that he has nowhere else to go and he will live with his mistakes. He is crying and emotional and says he will live with his mistakes. I am telling him I love him and willing to do whatever it takes to rebuild and that is all he is saying. He looks like he knows he is wrong but yet he can not stop himself.<P>In spite of all that has happened, the nasty things he has said to me and all the lies I love my H and am willing to do whatever it takes to work through this. I feel no anger, resentment, hatred towards him. I only feel love towards him. I have told him that I love him and will wait for him and he says he is not coming home.<P>I am praying several times a day, I am reading the Bible every night, I am usng positive thoughts and I get daily e-mail from rejoiceministries.org.<P>I have asked my H to forgive me for whatever I have done. He says he has forgiven me but he does not accept my apoligies. <P>I have forgiven my H for everything and I have told him so. I have asked God for forgiveness and asked God to give my H the strength to open his heart to Him so he may ask for forgiveness and forgive himself.<P>I understand that I can not ask God to restore my marriage until He has restored my H. My H is harboring alot of anger, resentment, hatred and I do not know why. He is not natured that way. In fact his actions/attitude over the past 8 months or so are so against his moral judgements and beliefs that I still have a hard time believing he is doing this.<P>This relationship is based on sin, lies, deceit and deception. They are 2 people running away from themselves and their commitments instead of turning and facing it head on. I liken it to a glass house or a house of cards both of which are easily destroyed.<P>I believe in my marriage, I believe in my H true heart, I believe in God, I believe in the power of pray because I can feel the Lord with me, I believe in His power to heal.<P>Please pray that God save my H. That He give him the strength to open his heart to God. That He give him the strength to break the chains Satan has bonded him with. That He cleanse and restore my H heart. And then that he retore or marriage and our family.<P>Thank you<P>I am going away for the weekend - with my D and parents - hopefully I will be able to relax and get some sleep. I will be back on the board Monday. Please pray for my H, my D and myself while I am gone.<P>Thank you

I will pray for you to St. Anthony, as I do for myself. I would give anything if my wife would forgive me and ask me to work with her to fix our marriage.<P>I pray you get your husband back...

Boy we have simialar stories. My prayers are with you though.

Thank you for your thoughts and posts.<P>Saw H for the first time in a week last night. He called on cell phone while we were driving home for shore. I asked him to come over when we got home because D misses him. He called when we got home and came <BR>over after 10pm. He and D went for a walk around development. He stood outside and talked to me for a while. He blames me for not letting him see D but he has made no effort to see her. She is angry with him. All she knows his he left us and has a new home and a new family. He claims he is going to file for divorce. He is happy now. He is not coming home. He does not love me. I can not accept that. I do not believe in divorce or separation. I believe we can restore/rebuild our marriage.<P>Please pray for my H. Please pray he is released from Satin's trap, that he sees God's light and follows the path home. Please pray for my D and myself. <P>This is moving so fast. As soon as I start to feel in control of myself I get caught up in another whirlwind and lose control. I love my H, I have forgiven him and I will do anything to rebuild our marriage.

I am feeling down today. Please pray for my strength to continue on this journey. I miss my H. I love my H. I do not understand what has happened to him. He is a stranger to me with his behaviors, attitudes and actions. Please pray that he is healed, restored, and that this family is healed and restored. I believe our foundation and love will get us through this with God's help. I believe it is God's will that this marriage will be healed and restored when the time is right. Please help me to stand aside to let Him work on my H and that I continue to learn the lessons God wants me to learn to be a better person and to win my H back.

Well those down days are hard. I havent heard a word from H since Tuesday. I have no clue where he is. He said he needed time to think and please not call him. So i have not. He is most likely with OW But they usually end in some kind of fight. She was even called the cops on him. Great life. He hasnt taken my son over there since this happened. Thank the Lord for that. Well my prayers are with you.

I will keep you all in my prayers. To keep you all posted. My husband still thinks there is no hope for this marriage and wants a divorce. I pray each day that God will intervene and save this marriage. I talk to him on the phone and on the internet. In fact he wrote back to me a few times on the internet and he actually called me on the phone to talk to me about how things were going. He said that he has met someone on the internet. She lives far away. He enjoys talking to her. I have heard about meeting people on the internet what do you people think. I can use all your prayers too.