Please pray for me, I just got off the phone with H who is wanting me to stop divorce that is due to be final Monday, Sept. 25. My problem is in trusting in him again. He promises to get counseling and he keeps telling me its going to be better but I need to call off the divorce to show him I'm really going to try. I keep praying that God will tell me what to do but I'm so confused I guess I'm not listening. Please pray that I find the answer soon.

My prayers are with you. You will see the light.

As we don't know your situation or why you feel you can nolonger trust your H. it would be unfair for us to give you an opinion, possibly even dangerous for you. I am out of our home because my W. has many issues with me and nolonger feels that she loves me enough to continue. Do you? Is it worth it?<BR>How long has he had to start counceling? Why wait til now to start. If you must prove your commitment before he will do anything he is controlling you. Your troubles together will not end after your divorce, especially if you have children and will continue to have contact. But if you have grounds to have come this far, and no issues have been resolved yet, you must take care of yourself. Talk to you pastor and talk to your family or friends that have honest opinions and you feel you can trust. What ever you do, you must feel it is right.<BR>Marriage is precious, and we shouldn't just toss one aside, but both persons must make an honest commitment to working on it, nobody has to start first to prove themselves. I pray for you to find giudance soon, God Bless.

RicZ, thanks for your help. You see i filed for divorce last December after discovering he'd had an affair. Prior to that we'd been separated since May of 99 because he refused to stop drinking. We just fought all the time. My attorney didn't ever get temporary orders for me, my H just sorta pays what he thinks is fair and since I can't afford to run up my atty bills i've let it go. Now in order to give our marriage more time I've asked my atty to seek temp orders even if it only for a short time. I can't trust my H to support his sons when he gets upset that things arent going his way.

thanks for your prayers trigger!

I will pray for you and your H.

thanks changed man. I just faxed a letter to my attorney telling him to get me temp orders and delay divorce if H is willing and serious about changes. He will call H's atty. Thats all that i can give him at this time. I pray i did the right thing.

Right now our divorce is on hold also. I have the temp orders I filed for divorce because H and OW said they were going to take S away from me. They lived in another state so he could have done it easily. However he has since forwarded his mail back to our house and has been having his UPS stuff sent here also. His cloths and other belongs are here also. I figure we need to give them a chance. I really believe in my marriage vows.<P>Michelle

trigger, how long does the court give us from the time we file for divorce until the divorce needs to be over? I've heard that in my state, Texas its one year. Anyone know? I also want to give him a chance because I believe when i said "i do" it was forever. H is very depressed and needs professional help in a bad way. But coming from me he thinks i'm just picking on him, and trying to point out all his faults.

trigger, how long does the court give us from the time we file for divorce until the divorce needs to be over? I've heard that in my state, Texas its one year. Anyone know? I also want to give him a chance because I believe when i said "i do" it was forever. H is very depressed and needs professional help in a bad way. But coming from me he thinks i'm just picking on him, and trying to point out all his faults.

I will pray for you and your husband!

Im not for sure aboout the length of time. I live in Illinois and I think here it can be on hold for as long as you want or matbe it gets thrown out. Im not for sure. My H needs help also but men sure do have alot of pride or at least mine does. My H will be in tears on moment and upset the next. everyone says he olny says he is sorry because he has no were else to go, but that not H He would live in his truck if need be. Well I have a very sickk 1 year old that has to go to DR. Gotta Run. You and your family are in my prayers