I am in the process of recovering from the discovery of my husband's emotional affair just seven months ago. H and I have made good progress, but now another crisis has erupted involving my two sons. My youngest, who is 13 years old, was diagnosed with ADD back in Kindergarten. He is now in 8th grade. He has always disliked school, but now that he has hit the teen years, he is becoming much more defiant. He is simply refusing to do his homework, stating that there is no point to it, because he already knows the material. I don't know if I can deal with this - I was a 4.0 student all the way through school - always driven - and feel as though his defiance and rebellion is my failure. I asked my 16 year old to pray for his brother and he said he didn't think that he could do that - he admitted that he is not sure if he really is a Christian and that he is really questionning his faith right now. On top of all of this, my husband is in the process of changing jobs (he will no longer be at the same organization as the OW, so that is good), so there will be a period of adjustment there too. The situation is complicated by the fact that the 13 year old wants to quit school. My husband thinks that he could homeschool him, but I just don't see how in light of the fact that his new job will require more time than he is putting in now. I feel as though I am paralyzed with fear and I don't understand why God has allowed all of this to happen in such a short period of time. I know that there is a lesson in all of this for me, I just pray that I will be open to receive it. Please pray for my family, that God will hold us in His hands and give my H and myself the wisdom, patience, and love we need to deal with our 13 year old. Also, please pray for my oldest son that he will find the truth, that God will soften his heart. He accepted the Lord at a young age (around 7), but feels as though he didn't make the decision. Both of my boys are dealing with wanting to make their own decisions in their lives, and I am struggling with giving up control.

It's a shame more people don't post more topics or respond to others in this forum. <P>Be patient and flexible right now. You seemed faces with a lot coming from all different directions.<P>He wouldn't give you more than you could handle, remeber that. You will handle it, that's a given. It's HOW you handle it that's important.<P>Consider you and your family prayed for <BR>Amen and God Bless<BR>

I will be adding you to my prayers today and in the days to come. I too feel overwhelmed with confusion due to numerous problems/situations at the same time. I am separated, h has had two EA and through time and my lack of self confidence our relationship dwindled down to almost nothing. Since the separation I have come to learn alot about myself and through the MB site even more understanding. I've loved God all of my life but didn't really have a personal relationship with him until Feb. 28, 1999. With him I do have a kind of peace and am waiting for all of the current situations to play out. I will pray that both you and I can handle the kids, the h, the confusion etc. God's Peace and hang in there. Your Sister in Christ LAP