What is God's will??????? that is my heartfelt prayer. My h is convinced he is not the man for me, and divorce will be the topic at our counseling session. He says he doesn't love me and I deserve someone who does. I have explored that thought too. Our other option would be to have an "arrangement" for the kids. (not open marriage, we would just accept what was there between us, which is I love him unconditionally, and we have a great friendship) I think that is the "RIGHT " thing to do, he says he has been doing that for years, and has been very unhappy. kept it from me, trying to protect me (from this?) OUCH, this hurts so badly. I am folding, I think we need to get a divorce, I can't continue to be the source of his unhappiness.<BR>Or maybe he will find out it wasn't me at all. My kids think I've lost my mind because I am crying often and can't tell them why. Oh, God Please help us..............

Father God, the prince of lies of this world delights in tearing what oyu have put together apart. In the name of Jesus, we bind his antics and claim this couple for your kingdom. Father soften the heart of this H and help him to hear your gentle whisper calling his name. <P>Oh holy Spirit, our comfort, strengthen our sister, hold her head up high. let her rest upon the truth and let the peace of God reign in her heart today. Let her see the joy of you in her children's eyes and know how awesome our creator is, how minute he is in his creativeness. Bring the medicine of laughter to this house and pour over all its inhabitants. IJN, Amen.

Carol, you are in my thoughts and prayers, I too have a h who says he's not the man for me, I need this or that or something else. But you know what, he's the one I married and I believe in a covenant marriage. I believe that through this difficult dry time I am trusting in God and rebuilding my relationship with HIM and God will then take care of my husband and soften his heart. I have been separated for 20 almost 21 months now and I have prayed for the peace and understanding and have gotten my own house in order so that when my h is ready God will facilitate the reconciliation.<P>Have faith, be strong, rest in His loving arms. After those cleansing tears have been released, remember all of us here, together with God are in agreement for your marriage.<BR>With a Sisters Love, Laurie