please pray for me as my final divorce date approaches (the 18th), that even though its secheduled to go to trial, it will have a peaceful ending. pray that my H will have a change of heart about dragging out and making our divorce more painful for his own sons (who have been subpoenaed by him) and me, his w of 17 years (who is still in love with him and secretly hopes one day will be his w again).

Confusedspouse,<P>I read your story on the other thread. I have been praying for you for some time now. <BR>I had ask you to go to the restorem.org web site. I believe you said you ordered the book from there. Correct me if I am wrong some of the names a similar. If you did get this book I hope you have read it and if you didn't I pray you get and read it. I have seen so many changes in my husband and myself since I started following Gods words<BR>detailed in this book. <P>When my H first filed for divorce it was bad<BR>He tried to take our daughters away from me. I had only a week to prepare and could not get a lawyer in time. Mine is along story but there was a chance he could have gotten them with his parents help. I had done nothing he hadn't done himself it was just the situation of some things at the time. I prayed and prayed. I had just became a Christian and was just learning Gods word. <BR>anyway I show up with my Mom and one of her friends for support. He had his lawyer and an assistant, his parents, two friends, and two teachers all to testify against me. I sat up there by myself and looked him straight in the eye. There is a lot to this but to make a long story short. I had to be my own lawyer for over three hours. I got to cross examine my husband and he had a bad case of the "I can't remembers" Anyway it didn't turn out like he wanted at all and the judge like me he told me I did a good job<BR>My MIL even came up to me and said next time she needed a lawyer she was going to hire me.<BR>God gets all the glory. I could not have done it without Him. I did hire a lawyer but that made the divorce worse. I decided to trust it to God once again and let my lawyer go and I was not paying for her. Things have gotten so much better and I can see God working in my H and me. I haven't heard anything about the divorce lately. I pray I don't. Please let God have it. Pray before you go. I prayed for an hour at the <BR>courthouse while my H was planning with his witnesses and lawyer. This is not putting him down. I am justing telling you how good God has been to me.<BR>gentle

yes gentle, it is me. i did order the book and i've read about half of it, i pray that god will take over. i wish i had all the faith you have because i know i still lack alot of faith. i keep telling myself whatever happens will happen because god says so and he has a reason for it. i'm not ashame to say i'm scared about being in that court room filled with his lawyers who by the way make me feel uncomfortable on their own. i can't understand how someone who claims he loves me so much and will forever can drag this divorce on. i had a friend tell me its because he loves me soooo much he can't let go. but if thats the case why doesn't he just get help and change his ways so we can continue together with therapy. i don't want this divorce either but i can't live that way anymore either and without written orders to pay me xxx amount of dollars in child support or xxx bills he won't do it on his own. i'm stuck.

Confused spouse,<P>I didn't have much faith either until I put the principles in that book to work in my life. I also got the workbook and it really <BR>helped me. There is parts in there about abusive spouses and other additions.<P>You ask why doesn't he just change. Take it from someone that has been there... he doesn't know how! You can't teach him he can't teach himself. God is the only one that can teach him. God is teaching him now. <BR>I know you are in pain but so is he. He is trying to fix things his way. He is trying to hold on because that is all he knows how to do. I am not saying you should let him come home. But I do believe if you backed off for now, put into practice the principles in that book, and take that leap of faith, things will get better for you. Just tell him you need to talk to god about it for awhile that you don't want to make a mistake. Practice that book. Do what it says and you will see changes. I promise. Wait on the Lord and put all your hope in him. I know this sounds crazy but it works. i will be praying for you. Please keep me posted.<BR>gentle