hello isaac, I wanted to respond to some of your issues on sha's thread but did not want to garble it. I understand how you feel about some of the negative comments, and it does really hurt. Sometimes when we are in pain, it is so much worse! Things that we normally let roll off our backs stab us in the solar plexus....and then someone has the nerve to come along and twist the knife to make sure we feel more pain.<BR>One thing here that irritates the heck out of me is the blanket statements. "Always, never, it cannot work, all the time".<BR>Ahhh, but there will always be some nasty negative people around us in life. Just like here, you learn when to ignore and when to do battle. I guess a lot has to do with my mood and where the other person seems to be aiming? But ya know....there are some on here that I just plain agree to disagree with. If it is major to me, I will say so. Even with the wrath of others, which has been ugly, and the risk of hurt feelings. There have been times I have left the forum because of some hateful things said by those that probably need to read more or are having a crappy day! Yep, I have been the punching bag here too, but I find it easier to feel good about the battles if you know the subject, know the research, and believe. Hopefully, though someone is berating you, they are learning?! They are seeing that there are other perspectives, reasons, backgrounds.<BR>And then there are some that just strike out....and it may be pain they are hiding? Their own insecurities? And there will be some that post that you will choose to never read..to never respond. So, when you ask why no one chastises another at a particular time...maybe they are not in battle mode? Maybe they choose to ignore? Maybe there is so much going on that a disagreement is just overwhelming. Too much to deal with? The great thing is it is always your choice to read, respond, or mull it over!! <BR>Happy to see you posting, cl<BR>

hi isaac, to the top so you will see.

You're a good lady cl.

Thanks, cl. I agree with you.<P>I've been reading here for years, and post very little but I've learned a lot from others here. I guess I was shocked at what I read and I felt as if something had to be said, and didn't mean to come across harshly, but did. <P>Thanks for the post.

Eyes open, eyes close, eyes now open again.

cl<BR>I want to thank you for this post.<BR>If you don't mind I'd like to add a little something that was touched on a few weeks ago.<P>I don't think that there is a single one of us that wouldn't benefit from taking a good look at ourselves and the impression that we might be making on others. No one here needs more pain.