Why is this happening? God must have a purpose for all of this going on, what is it? All i feel is pain, agony and rejection. I keep praying and hoping that this part of our life will come to some sort of closure so we can grow together, but it seems my wife and I are standing still, at least she is standing still with a short leash on me. Please pray that God will show me the light at the end of the tunnel, that He will touch my wife in a way that she knows He is real and He is there for her to help her take steps to grow and become that woman that he intended for her to be. my name is Mike and my wife is Stephanie

Mike, it seems as though this is a trying time for lots of us. I too am feeling some of the same things, for different reasons. I pray that God will place his healing touch on your life with Stephanie and that peace will rule your house. Be strong and faithful. God will provide, of that you can be assured. God bless...

thanks, Bridge. I read your post on the other thread, do I interpret right that you husband does not attend church? Is he saved? My wife has avoided church, for the most part just going on holidays. I do not think she is saved, this is an issue in our relationship. I want to uphold and follow christian values, and she seems not to. This is bad since our little girl is nearing 3 years old. are you or anyone else in this situation, how do you live and try to teach without comming across as a "religeous fanatic", as she has called me once before?

You do interpret correctly. When my husband an I were dating, neither one of us lived very "appropriate" lifestyles. I rededicated myself to the Lord only about 1 1/2 to 2 years ago. This has put a huge strain on our relationship. He says that I am not "fun" anymore. If we were to meet today, we would probably never get along. My husband would never go to church, not even on Christmas were it not for the Christmas play that his kids were in. His ex-wife is the same. The children go to church with me, but it is when they want to go. I don't make them. If they were my own children where I had more control, I probably would. I try to never talk religion around my husband. If he asks questions, I answer, but I never bring it up. Those who don't believe think the rest of us are nuts. I just try to tell myself that God will judge me for what I do (or don't). All you can do is tell your daughter how you believe and why, and as she gets older, show her the proof. Being unequally yolked is a very difficult situation, but also a wonderful opportunity. By "living" how you should you are an example to your wife. How she chooses to live must be her own decision and ultimately, the same is true for your young child. All you can do is to do what you know is right and pray that the rest falls into place. Your path is not an easy one but you must have faith that you are exactly where God wants you to be and trust him to provide you with strength to endure and prevail. God bless....

I'm in your same boat, too. It is the source of the most pain and the most contention. I have always believed but a few years ago I realized that if Jesus came back, I was not going to have much fruit to show Him. So I rededicated myself to Him and my marriage has only gotten worse and worse until now my H has another. <BR>All of this about emotional needs and my big, giant, emotional need is to share the greatness of the Lord and to serve Him in all things. I would love to be able to share the Lord with him. I may have put too much pressure on him though and maybe that drove him away. <BR>I guess when you are so excited about something, you just want to share it with everybody but if they don't want it, you can make them "gag" on it. I guess it becomes a demand that's unfair. <BR>Jesus said not to judge so don't judge if your wife is saved. Remember the parable of the harvest. Some workers worked all day and some just worked the final hour. She may come around on her final hour thanks to your humility. <P>Dear Jesus, <BR>Help all of us who are unevenly yoked to accept our situation and to win over our spouses through our example and our joy. Never let us become too focused on our own pain to experience Your joy. Amen.

amen.