I have a question... Patty has asked that I not call her or write to her. That she be in control. That all she wants is to get divorced so we can start over together, having a clean start. I have backed down on the emails and phone calls but now I feel like I have lost her. All kinds of things race through my mind as to what to do. I want to call her and stay in touch. When we do talk, it starts out with her being angry with me but after a few minutes, we start to share things, etc. She won't tell anyone that we've spoken, like she is hiding it. <BR>Do I let her go her way and let her work things out or should I call her and stay in touch with her? Ted ><>

Hi, Ted. Oh, your pain. I talked to my H and we are concerned for you that Patty may have ulterior motives. I am sure it is a question of your own. You know we and many others here will continue to uplift you. <P>I don't have an answer or advice or suggestion--I think because you encouraged me in prayer I feel so deeply for your need. I will pray for God to clearly direct you in wisdom. <P>My dear friend, this doesn't sound like a way to resolve marriage issues and I wish there were some way Patty could see your anguish and relent of her need for control--just to let God take over and restore everything.<P>God has a better day in store for you, Ted. It is so hard to wait and Satan loves to ruin marriages and families as he tempts us and we fall..but as I just was reminded yesterday, the devil can destroy us but he can NEVER crush us because of our Ressurected Saviour. <P>Blessings flow over you and Patty in excessive abundance.<P>Dear Jesus, please bless my brother in Christ with your perfect peace that passes understanding. Lord you know how hard he has worked at restoration and how true and sincere his love is for his wife. Oh, Lord, we pray that Patty will see Your perfect love in its awesome forgiveness and compassion and mercy and experience joy in extending the same to Ted and receiving herself. Holy Spirit, come and minister to Patty...erase all the hurts and renew a desire to enter into an even deeper relationship with the husband You gave her. Oh, God if Patty is afraid of what a renewed and improved relationship means for her, Ted and her relationship with You (You know where she stands), then melt every fear and give her an incredible passion and loneliness to fall back into her husband's arms ready for a new life together.<BR>Jesus, I ask these blessings for Ted, in Your almighty, anointed, holy and precious Name. Amen.<P>Ted, it's Holy Week and like the song by Carmen says...It might feel like Friday night but Sunday's on the way! In other words, it may seem your dream is dying but Resurrection is on the way! <P>Hugs, Your sister in Him,<P>------------------<BR>Fresh Start

Dear Ted,<P>Respect Patty's wishes for now.Show self control. God is in charge no matter what it may look like. I can't find it in the Bible right now but, Paul says that half of the battle will be fought in our minds. Don't let Satan put those negative thoughts in there. Just remember that God's Mighty <BR>Hands are on this situation. Faith is believeing in the unseen. I know this is hard. It always helps me to be reminded by someone who is where I am at. <P>In Him,<BR>gentle

Well...<BR>I thank God for His mercy and grace. Patty called me yesterday and we talked for a long time. Thank you all for your prayers.I just cannot believe ho wonderful things are progressing. We atlked about many things but what touched my heart the most is that we started talking about the Word. This is a very new thing for us. Please continue to pray for me: to be the godly and trustworthy husband Patty needs and wants. For Patty: to continue to draw close to the heart of God through His word. Pray for our reconciliation, please pray for this. God is so good ! <BR>Ted ><>