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Hi, again. Couldn't get into my regular email and think God wanted me here first!!<P>I am overwhelmingly blessed but of course, there are issues that take hard work which I still must face.<P>I have called my area supervisors to explain in what ways their treatment of H and I are Scripture based and why my denomination will not minister to me. I no longer want their counsel but have this burden that I MUST stand up for future victims/repentant ones. <P>So, PLEASE pray the following for me:<P>a) that I will not react with yelling or crying or anger when hearing things I know are lies (if that happens)or unacceptable in some other way<P>b)that I will respect my authorities and come to peace with them...I am not asking them to make me their new best friend but I don't want to have aught against anyone as Christ renews my life in Him<P>c)that if they have committed any sin against me, they will seek God's forgiveness. My bosses are about to retire and I don't want my situation to make a sour note as they exit active ministry<P>If everything was going to go the way I want in my deepest heart, we would all end up kneeling in humility and seeking God's favor. I realize in th natural that's too much to expect but I do pray the Holy Spirit will permeate the interview and we can leave on better terms.<P>Thank you so much for this help. We meet at 10am MST Tuesday, April 10. Even if you read this after continue to pray.<P>The other request is that they will please give us some word on H's sick leave which he applied for several weeks ago and no one has spoken to him re it except once. We have no idea how we will be paid and no word on when--we are at the end of our pay up to April 6. God has provided some money which seems to be delayed in arriving but He knows.<P>I am almost certain I will be fired or further punished but God is Romans 8:28ing everything that despite my small fear I know He will prevail! Praise Him. Thanks again!<P>------------------<BR>Fresh Start

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Freshstart, <P>There is so much going on right now. I am on my way out the door. Play practice at church. Just noticed no one had responded to your requests and wanted to let you know that we are all listening and praying, as you ask. May his will be done, may your life continue to get better and better..God bless..He is Awesome!

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Thank you, bridgeovertroubledwater<P>You reminded I needed to post that things went well..enough. <P>H was granted very generous sick leave (a 6 week grace period added to first four weeks full pay) The boss pointed out and said it twice in a row that it's ironic that H will have pay reduced on sick leave while I'm on suspension with full pay. <P>Boss answered my questions but ignored my question regarding why I am not being discipled as part of my discipline. He and his wife denied things I said and as far as I can tell they did that twice..one issue I think maybe I was out on --I remember the words but was so distraught. It was a huge mistake not to have things confirmed in writing at the start. <P>The visit only confirmed our sense that God wants us to leave this particular church..not that it's not good for others and they are beautiful saints of God who belong. But the way we have been treated is unscriptural and Bosses didn't even address that in any way. He was very angry on this "pastoral visit" as he called it. <P>I tried to explain that I said many things in anger and horrible pain and much was displaced at first. That didn't seem to matter. <P>So, wonder of wonders, now I am even allowed to go back to the church we pastored??? I won't do that to the people but the ban of communication is lifted so I am free to go into the building to drop off mail or chat with volunteers there, etc. We are worshipping at the other church as God is blessing us big time there. <P>Many good things have come. Our marriage is so much stronger as we have had to lean on each other through all these other storms. Yes, we have problems and I have a lot of bad days but God is good and things are improving.<P>Thanks so much for your concern and taking time when busy to show support. I never worry about no replies as there are many who pray and just don't mention, whatever. But it means alot when someone does let you know they are here! [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<P>------------------<BR>Fresh Start

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FreshStart:<P>Just saw this, I'd been praying as per your other posts. Good to see that something dis come out of your recent meeting.<P>It's amazing!, but you did put yourself and your husband in trouble Big Time, yet your marriage seems to be getting stronger for it and you are able to weather the storms.<P>I pray that you wull continue from strength to strength with God's blessings.<P>Clyde

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Hey, Clyde A.<P>So good to hear from you again!<P>Yes, I don't understand why the blessings are so mighty other than God's grace!<P>H just saw in paper a big job fair in town on Tuesday April 17. Now is scary as we seek God's will for what to do next. We have experience but no degrees, etc. And all our recent experience is ministry. This job fair is exciting.<P>I really hope to post the recipes for the romantic picnic. I am so frustrated about not gettin on here more right now but kids are home for Easter break till Monday and the messenger service is great but so annoying when you plan to check on email or go here, etc. Guess I have to turn it off to get things done. <P>Time will come. We are going to go at packing all out starting Tuesday. Kids get upset when we pack in front of them but there's tons of repairs and housework for now.<P>Things are getting better. Please update me on how things are going for you when you get a chance. Blessings, my brother!<P>------------------<BR>Fresh Start


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