Please pray that my husband is blessed with a job soon, one that pays him financially well enough so he can handle the bills we have incurred when I left him ten months ago. We both work as freelancers and our main client has recently dried up through a merger and we are barely getting by, trying to hang on until, hopefully, they need us again.<P>We are trying to reconcile and financial matters have always caused many arguments and great divides between us. I fear that if God doesn't provide something for my husband soon or lead him in the right direction that my husband will fall back into his old ways (acting out against me and becoming very depressed).<P>Please pray for my husband, that God will move in his heart an inspiration for him to conquer his fears and know that he is not alone. That God is always right there with him and that maybe he will find the courage, with God's will, to fulfill his life long dreams. He does not like the job he's been doing for years now and only does it to pay the bills...as a result he is very moody and up and down daily with personality swing changes for he does not feel in control of his life...he feels helpless and just gives us.<P>Please pray for encouragement for me through God's inspiratino to know how I can help support him through these tribulations. It seems like we've (mainly he has) have been caught in this same circle for the entire time of our relationship.<P>I know all things are possible with the Lord's love since he has instilled within both of our hearts to try to reconcille our marriage so I know that he can move mountains in my husbands life too.<P>Thank you, Lotusblossum

Jesus, please lead this man to trust in You. Lead both of them to You and strengthen their bond through You. If it is Your will for him to find a new job, let him do so. I pray above all that he will turn to You for all his needs and understand that any new job is a blessing from you. Help release him from his need to control his life financially and emotionally. Help him to give that control to You. This is so hard for all of us, but especially for men. Lead him gently back to You, Lord. Amen.

I know my husband's depression was a partly a result of being unhappy on the job. He finally realized (even after our reconciliation) that a change was in order and eventually found a job. Tell him to not give up but keep moving forward in the job hunt. It seemed like just moving in that direction helped H's depression about it. We will keep you in our prayers.

Thank you Tryingtohope, you are so kind. Your prayers are a great blessing to me, as well as your personal writings...they give me some hope. You are right in your response to my other message, that I have to remind myself every day to look at the big picture and not the daily rollercoaster. Thank you. Have a nice weekend, I will write again monday.<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Tryingtohope:<BR><B>Jesus, please lead this man to trust in You. Lead both of them to You and strengthen their bond through You. If it is Your will for him to find a new job, let him do so. I pray above all that he will turn to You for all his needs and understand that any new job is a blessing from you. Help release him from his need to control his life financially and emotionally. Help him to give that control to You. This is so hard for all of us, but especially for men. Lead him gently back to You, Lord. Amen.</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>

You and I both know that he should not give up but he gets so discouraged that he isn't doing anything about it right now. He just grows angry with me when I try to help him. I've resolved to just give it to the Lord and let him control it for I can't...it's between my husband and him. I just don't know how to cope from the sidelines when he blames me sometimes or even takes it out on me verbally.<P>He does realize and even admits that this is part of his depression yet if fustrates me for he isn't doing anything about it. He yelled at me alot last night about it and called me a ***** repeatedly, amongst other terms. I just keep my mouth shut and didn't react (a major difference to me for I find this treatment disrespectful) but then 20 minutes later he appologized and thanked me for not reacting.<P>I am not sure how I should handle these repeated almost daily episodes. Thank you for your prayers.<BR> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Janie:<BR><B>I know my husband's depression was a partly a result of being unhappy on the job. He finally realized (even after our reconciliation) that a change was in order and eventually found a job. Tell him to not give up but keep moving forward in the job hunt. It seemed like just moving in that direction helped H's depression about it. We will keep you in our prayers.</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>

Some days I have felt like my husband would like to blame me for the weather so I know how you feel. Just as it's not your fault if it rains, the rest is all not your fault either.<P>It is almost impossible to move when you are depressed and feeling worthless. Is there any way to see about anti-depressants as a temporary solution? Depression is a chemical problem very often. The medicine can't solve the problems we face but it allows a depressed person to use the logical part of his brain rather than being submerged by their own emotions. Being depressed is also physically draining.<P>Your support and calmness are great for him. The fact that you moved back to be near him is also very healing. Be patient and ask the Lord to help about bills. He will. Maybe you can help your husband by mailing out his resumè, or helping him update it, or calling for addresses or faxes. What type of job is he looking for? Copywriting? Editing? Journalism? Does he have a portfolio ready to send out? When I was depressed looking for a job, my husband helped me just by addressing and mailing envelopes which I wouldn't have done by myself. It was too many steps for me. If your husband is a writer, it is typical that this type of work is too hard for him. It sounds ridiculous but when you are depressed it is overwhelming to do this type of task.<P>Maybe he can keep a journal or write some poetry about his depression so that he keeps up his writing skills and achieves something during this.<P>I don't think his next job will be the big one - it will be a stepping stone to the right job. Tell him not to put a lot of pressure on himself about it. The right job will come when he's ready. His job doesn't identify him.<P>Stay your course - you're doing great. I hope you have some friends to visit. Do you have a church you can go to for prayer and worship?