H (ws) and I were nearly 4 weeks into a beautiful recovery when suddenly I came home from work to find my kids at the neighbors and him gone. Later that night I found out he'd checked himself into a mental health unit for inpatient treatment for depression. During his few days there he wouldn't accept phone calls or visits from me and three days later when he was released he told me he didn't want to "pretend" anymore. After 10 1/2 years of marriage he said he didn't love me and couldn't pretend he did anymore.<P>I refuse to believe the past 10 years of my life have been a lie. I don't believe he was "pretending" during our recovery period. I love him more that anything and want him to be well again and realize the importance of puting our marriage first and making our family strong and healthy and happy again.<P>Please pray for his recovery and pray that we will be together again. I will keep all of you in my thought and prayers. I know God wants us all to fulfill our promises of lasting marriages and families and I know that prayer is a very powerful tool.<P>God bless each and every one of you.<P>Sun

Dear Lord, i lift up Sun and her husband to you that you would build their marriage by your hand. I pray that you would deliver her husband from his depression and the lies the enemy attacks him with, when he is depressed. Give Sun your peace thru her trials Lord so that she can rest in you and know you will finish the work you started Lord. In Jesus Name Amen. Be encouraged Sun that the Lord will honor your prayers and commitment to your marriage and husband. Your husband isnt in the right mind to make a judgement on his love for you. Hes probably just trying to hurt you cause he hurts inside. My wife has manic depression so i understand these things more now, cause she has shared with me her true feelings about how she reacted with hatred and anger in the past. Put it all in Gods hands and rest in him as you trust him. Easier said than done i know, just keep pushing on, the Lord will be faithful. Mark

Depression does horrible things to a person. He doesn't have feelings right now. I heard many of the same things from my H and until he got the right medication, we made no progress whatsoever. Please ensure he follows through with his health professional. Best wishes to you.

Sun,<P>I feel your pain as my husband suffers with d too and he says one thing one week and then changes his mind the next. I am currently walking on egg shells for we are reconcilling or at least trying but every other day or so whenever there is little bump or conflict he says horrible things and wants to just get divorced. I am starting to not react and just be calm and I am noticing a difference. I find he just needs to blow steam and have space but that he expresses it poorly and that often he doesn't mean what he says. I pray that this is the case for your h. Maybe he just needs time and space. I am currently reading a book that someone refered me to on this page and I highly recommend it to you. It will help you tremendously and tell you how to act and react to your h right now and save your marriage. Basicly it tells you how God will save your marriage and for you to lean on him and not react and he will see you through. The book is called can be found on this website <A HREF="http://www.restorem.org/home.shtml" TARGET=_blank>http://www.restorem.org/home.shtml</A> and is for women . The title is something like How to Let God Restore Your Marriage (that is not correct title but similar).<P>Check it out. It has helped me tremendously and I feel alot calmer knowing God is right here watching over me and taking care of things for me in my best interests. I pray that he does the same for you and that you remain calm in this storm of turmoil you are experiencing.<P>Lotus

God bless you and your husband. It was a good thing that he recognized his depression and is getting treatment for it. He may want to blame you for it but it isn't your fault. I agree with Lotus that you should get that book. Your love can be strengthened through it. It helps you to stay focused on the final goal and not on the day-to-day struggles (which is VERY hard not to do).<P>The Lord wants you to be married. Believe this and don't be fooled by these setbacks.

Thanks to you all -- your words of encouragement mean a great deal. It is nice to hear from those of you who have a strong faith --such as I.<P>My parents and siblings and many of my "friends" can't understand why I just don't "move on". They don't understand the way you all do.<P>Mark, your prayer is beautiful. I will treasure the words and repeat them to the Lord often.<P>And, Lotus and all, I intend to get the book. I do believe that God brought the two of us together and does not want it to be this way. I just with my darling husband had the kind of faith those here seem to. Perhaps through all of this he will find his way.<P>Christ's blessings to each of you.<P>many thanks,<BR>sun

Sun, dont let your family, siblings and friends discourage you. All mine have tried so hard and are so againts me getting back with my wife, but i refuse to listen. The enemy uses them, to discourage us. I hope and pray my wife finds the faith to stand up to her evil mother who is so againts us, she stops at nothing. (she needs me to blame) I do praise God my wife now sees this and even told me today its true. and is doing her best to not fear her mother and all our families that are againts us getting back. Ive even had pastors tell me its hopeless! Im putting my faith and trust in God. I will keep lifting you and your husband up in prayer dear sister. <BR>In Christ, Mark