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#338606 05/08/01 05:30 PM
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Hello to all. This is my first post on this site so please bear with me. <P>I have been reading Dr. Harley for some time in dealing with WS and on-again, off-again A of over 5 years of our 17 year marriage. (mainly off - but H keeps falling back into same old pattern). We have been separated (separate bedrooms) but living in the same house for almost 10 months. Sometimes we get along fine, other times there is such a distance and I can actually see the 'fog' that H is dealing with. He says that he feels trapped in our marriage, and that he just needs to be on his own, yet he has not left. <P>My point in posting here is that I need spiritual support. I have been working on Plan A for some time now and am getting very tired and discouraged. I know that God is working in my life and that there has been a great purpose in this whole situation for me. I have grown so much in faith and in understanding God's love for us. We have become members of a wonderful church and I feel a wonderful bond with my children (12yrs and 10yrs) in our faith. H does attend church with us but does not have that personal relationship with God that we are all called to. I know that he is missing the most complete peace and joy that any of us can experience this side of heaven, but I cannot be the one to lead him there. Any discussion of a personal faith is a LB to him. <P>Please help me pray for H, for our relationship and our family. I pray constantly for God's will to be done and carried out in our lives, and the lives of our children. I love H as much if not more now than ever, and while my wish is that we can rebuild our marriage, my ultimate desire for him is to have a real relationship with Jesus Christ. <P>No one thinks that they will ever be in this situation, me included. I love my husband and my children more than words can express. Trusting this situation to the hands of God is truly a daily and sometimes hourly test of faith. H has been so stubborn and selfish minded that he cannot see his the true imact of his decisions on others. (He has ADD, which makes these tendencies even more pronounced) This makes Plan A VERY difficult at times. <P>I need prayer support and encouragement for the hard times, and the times when it seems that there is no good news. I live every day waiting for bad news and waiting for the 'other shoe to fall'. Every day is crutial now. Pray with me as I pray for every person here, hurting from the pull of the 'flesh' on those that they love.<P> Loving God, please place your arms around us and comfort us with the love and peace that only you can provide. We seek your support over all and need your strenght as we grow in our relationship with you. We pray for our loved ones and the stress that they endure. We seek your guidance Lord, to lift the veil of darkness from their lives so they may to bask in the joy of your love. Heal our relationships, Lord, as only you can, guiding us in your way according your your will for our lives. In the name of your son, Amen. <P>------------------<BR>Deb

#338607 05/09/01 09:09 AM
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I have been in your shoes. Turning the situation over to the Lord and praying for continued patience is the ONLY way to get through this. The fact he is attending church and is still at home is good news in itself. Keep up your good work, continue to post here and get the support you need. Take care. Janie

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Janie,<P>Thanks for your support. This is a great place to read and get support from others. I wish that I had found it earlier in all of this mess, but maybe I found it at just the right time. I keep turning this over to God and the answer that I get is to not give up. I know that God is working on me and I feel like I have changed in so many ways - for the better. I just continue to pray that H will come out of the fog and see the wonderful opportunities that we have to rebuild our lives and give our children the family that they deserve. We have all been under such stress for a long time.....we just need something really positive to happen to give us the encouragment to face the new days.


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