I remarried just a year and half ago. My wife now seems very unsatisfied with the marriage and so do I. She is constantly trying to get more money out of me and I just don't have it. She knew when she married me, how much I made. She has given me presents in the past, now she wants me to pay for them. She said she was used in her first two marriages and is not going to be used now. I still do love her and would like to make this work, but not sure how. I do believe in the Vows I made and feel like I can not divorce her for anything less then adultry. I ask for your prayers and God's Help

You really needs Gods grace and wisdom brother on this. It appears as you both havent healed from the past and have just brought your baggage with you and dumped it on each other and called it a marrige. You both expected the other to make you feel good and cover your pain. It dont work. Unless you find a rock solid faith in Jesus Christ, you have no hope of reconcilliation, and will just live this pattern over and over again. Marriage is suppose to be an example of our relationship with Jesus. Not used like a drug to cover pain of the past. My wife has given me the most unsatisfactory life a human being could ever have. 3 years, still seperated and my life is destroyed compleatly. Still i stand on Gods word and put my faith and trust in Him. You need to truly find the Lord in your life. Its your only hope.<BR>Mark

I am sorry about the trouble you are having with your wife. Have you tried doing the emotional needs questionnaire with her? Apparently you are both looking for something, giving what you feel is best but the other isn't feeling the love you meant to express.<P>I think it's great that you want to hold on to your marriage and you believe in your vows. Try not to react to her attacks but to remember that they are probably based on not feeling loved. It's not money, it's the feeling that you are giving up too much and not getting anything that causes people to fight.<P>I hope your wife believes in God as you do. Can you take her out on a nice drive or make a nice picnic lunch or go hiking together? Can you make her something with your hands?<BR>Can you brainstorm together about ways to make some extra money if it's needed? <P>Jesus, please guide this couple according to Your will. Call each of them closer to You so that they will understand the only lasting happiness. Amen.<P>

Thank you, "tryingtohope", for your reply. I have not approached her yet with anything from this site. I do not think she would respond well at the moment. I hope to use some of the principles in Marriage Builders and hope she can start to see positive changes in ME! Then I will try to get her to fill out the emotional needs survey and read the material here. Thanks again, and GOD BLESS