I've spent the better part of the last two and a half years trying to make my relationship with my now fiancee work. We've had our problems, and have mostly worked through them, and I find myself burned out. It's the kind of relationship where I try to be understanding and avoid confrontation, and she doesn't. I spend our (currently infrequent ) arguments analyzing why she's right and undermining my own points. I can be balled up in tears on the floor, listening to her continue to argue her point. My job has become in question due to health issues and she didn't seem to care because we weren't engaged. I try, honestly, but it seems like with my job and health in peril and my fiancee apparantly perfectly willing to pull the figurative trigger on me that I don't have that much to live for. I think I might need to break it off, but that requires conflict, and I don't think I can emotionally deal with whatever of her verbal fury I unleash. I know... I'm weak... sigh.<P><BR>

Am I somehow not worth replying to or praying for? I'm glad I turned to a Christ-based community. I don't mean to sound bitter here, but I guess that I am...<P><BR>

gcan, told you I would pray. <P>Yes, the conflict is hard to deal with but your circumstance is harder still. My opinion would be to love yourself. You know this marriage would never work. She won't consider your needs after 2 1/2 years? She never will. You deserve so much better and there must be someone special waiting that you are missing out on by wasting time on this woman.<P>It would be scary to be alone but at least you would have peace of mind and room to get well. You could really get to know yourself and be better prepared for a strong healthy relationship in the future.<P>Lord, please help my friend to find hope. Shine a ray of light before him, please. Heal his body and his wounded spirit. Replace the bitterness with limitless joy. Reveal Your awesome love to your son. Set him free to love life, love You, love himself as You do! and to meet a true love soon.<P>Gcan, there is a marvelous verse in Zephaniah (I think the reference is 3:15 but could be wrong-sorry don't have a Bible handy) It talks about how the Father God delights in us with singing. 2 Samuel 22 talks about how God rescued his beloved because He delighted in him. God's word remains relevant today. Try to cling to these verses as you allow God to lift up your spirits and deliver you from brokenheartedness.<P>We do really care. <P>------------------<BR>Fresh Start

gcan, I hope your name doesn't stand for garbage can...forgive me if it represents something else...but if it does reflect my first worry, I am praying you will decide it means GOD CAN instead <P>------------------<BR>Fresh Start

GCAN<P>Is this a women you want to spend the rest of your life with? Go to a quiet room and seek the Lord. This women may not be the one the Lord has chosen for you. He could be showing you this, and you are not listening to His will. Gcan, when we give our will to the Lord, and seek His, our life is on the right track.<P>Lord, I lift gcan up to you now. Father, show him what he need to know and do. Let him seek your will, and give his life over to you. Show him Lord, what is right for him, and what is not right. Lord, I lift up to you this relationship he is in. Show him oh Lord if this is the right women for him.<P>IJN amen.<BR>Kathie

Hello - I am married and almost separated from a non-believer. Our marriage was not based on Christ. I believed my H would convert after we were married but it never happened. We also had a difficult time before we were married but we married anyway. Big mistake. It has been a lot of very difficult years for me. I think you need to get away from your fiancee and think things through. Is your relationship Christ-centered? If not, it is almost certain to fail at some point. <P>The Lord wants you to experience the joy that only He can bring to you. Your fiancee cannot bring you the same joy, particularly if she doesn't know Him. Trust in God and turn it over to Him. He protects the weak. Your weakness is His strength. God bless you.<P>(PS - We can't always post a reply right away but it doesn't mean we're not praying. You have to wait a couple of days. Hang in there.)

I pray that God would open your eyes and that you would see how blessed you are that you havent married this woman. You have learned a lot from this relationship, and know how to make a commitment under the worst circumstances. A Godly woman will be very blessed to have you as a husband. I pray God gives you the strenth to get out from the grip of the not so nice person that you are with. Lord, i pray you spare my brother from untold misery that i have experienced(without a way out,married) and give him the strenth to leave this situation that is like a bad drug addiction. In Jesus name, Amen.

SAVE YOURSELF!!! the pain of being married to this woman...I feel like I am serving a life sentence with out the option of parole to the man I married ...I have only served 8 so far!...I wish I had known about this site prior to our marriage maybe I would have been able to spare myself the pain and heart ache I go through each day. I will pray that God will spare you.