I have been reading the forums here for about 3 weeks now. My wife of 16 years left about 2 weeks ago. She said that she didn't love me any more. The only way that she communicates with me is through email. I recently lost my job and I found out from the cardiologist today that I may need to have surgery. I don't want to be alone if I have to have any surgery. She has been getting advice from some of her friends saying that she needs to start over with someone else. We talked about counseling but after talking with her friends I think that she has changed her mind. I miss my wife dearly. I can't seem to control the crying whenever I see a young or old couple holding hands. I have never been this afraid about anything. I have been praying night and day for a second chance. If anything did happen to me I would like her beside me holding my hand. Thank god for this site. <P>OAS

Dear Brother OAS. sounds like a tough spot. When my wife left, i had a minor heart attack and then lost my job. I was never more scared and lonly in my life. I felt like i was in hell. No exageration. I was suppose to stay at the hospital but i wanted to die so i didnt. Well the Lord saw me thru it all and i guess it isnt my time. But you dont do that. You really need to reach out to the Lord right now and spend time with Him and cry to Him cause that brings the very prescense of God. Psalm 34:18 says the Lord is close to the broken hearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. Its a great psalm when your hurting. If you grow close to the Lord, you cant go wrong. Seek Him with all you have and He will give you the strenth to make it thru this and He will also reach your wife and restore the love she has for you. It will be in His time, and i still dont like to hear that much. Dear Lord, I pray you give my brother OAS the strenth and your rest during his heart breaking trials. Draw near to him Lord, he is crying out to you for your love and help. Lord i know nothing is too great for you to handle and i pray Lord that you would restore this mans marriage and the love that his wife denies is there any longer. Lord i ask that you would bring both of them compleatly under your Lordship and heal both there hearts in the areas Lord that only you and they know need healing. May the Lords name be honored and glorified in all this. In Jesus name, Amen

Dear OAS,<BR>Sorry to hear your problems. I've prayed for you. Please pray for me, as you are not alone: I too have a wife who's leaving me and I too am in the worst pain I've ever felt. Just last night she served me divorce papers. <P>I sure wish Jesus would return now, right now...<P>Your partner in agony,<BR>Ken<P>------------------<BR>Waiting for God...

Now my wife is not even replying to my emails. I tried calling and left a message on her cell phone and have not received a reply as of today. I found out that one of her coworkers, a friend of both of us, has had a crush on her since she hired him. He is the first person that she calls when she needs some advice. I don't think that she wants to get back together with me. I would do anything to get her back. If someone said that I could get her back by cutting off a leg I would bring the saw. I have not taken my wedding ring off since she left. It is a symbol of hope for me that she will come back. I am probably in some serious denial here but I have nothing left. I pray to God every chance I get to give me a second chance. I have not always been a very religious person. Maybe losing my wife is my punishment for not helping others when I could. Some days I wish for God to just take me and get it over with. I wish I could talk to a friend about my pain but my best friend died in 1995. I think that is when I lost my faith. I could not understand why God would take such a truly loving person who had never hurt anything or anybody and at first cripple him and then take him away. And now God has taken the only other person that I love away from me. Why is this happening? Every time I turn on the TV there is someone talking about failures in marriage because of the lack of communication. How can I try and repair my marriage if my wife is no longer willing to talk to me?

It sounds as if your wife is in the "fog" right now. First of all you need to focus on pulling yourself together. You may be facing some serious surgery and you need to be strong for that. Continue to try and communicate with her in a loving way, but from experience I can tell you not to expect anything in return for a while. When I was faced with this, I wanted a "quick fix" and it just didn't happen. Things got a lot worse between us before they started to "get better". I made myself take time to take care of myself or I never would have made it. <P>Lord, please see this man through the health issues he is facing. Soften his wife's heart to see the mistake she is making. Help him to stay positive and give him the patience to continue his efforts in a loving way.

You are not alone! Your story is very similar to mine. I will pray for you. And I also need your prayers. Listen to Janie, she said get yourself together and that is what you need to do. Try not to focus on what your wife is doing right now. Get yourself together God loves you brother and I will be praying for you.

From a human standpoint, it doesn't make sense to hope, but we all know that God can do anything. No one else can make something out of nothing. God did when He made this incredible universe.<P>We don't know why good people die, but we do know that God loves each of us. His plan is eternal so what is good for eternity might not feel good in the short run which is our lives. Maybe your friend would have stumbled had he lived, or maybe his wife would have or a child of his - we don't know until we die the reasons for all we have gone through.<P>Trust in God. Lean on Him. Read His word. He is there to help; He wants to help and He wants Your marriage to be restored in Him. Praise Him in all things and suddenly the world isn't so dark. He can turn Your wife's heart. You don't need to communicate with her directly if you pray.<P>Glory be to the Father, to the Son and to the Holy Spirit as it was in the beginning, is now and ever shall be, world without end, Amen.<P>