1. Betrayed person is... <BR>a. Husband <BR> <BR>2. Occupation of <BR>a. Betrayed Husband - gm hotel<BR>b. Betrayed Wife - supervisor design<BR>3. Occupation of <BR>a. Betrayer Husband - project engineer<BR>b. Betrayer Wife - at home mom, now accounting<BR>4. Age of Betrayed Person at time of most recent affair <BR>b. Between 30 - 40 <BR>5. Age of Betrayer at the time of the most recent affair <BR>a. Between 20 -30 <BR>6. Number of years married when most recent affair began <BR>a. Between 1 - 5 years <BR>7. Number of know affairs Betrayer has had throughout marriage. <BR>a. one <BR>8. Both partners in marriage have had a least one affair each. <BR>b. no <BR>9. Number of children involved (fill in blank) <BR>a. in marriage -0<BR>b. in life of Other Person -1<BR>10. Betrayed person was <BR>a. taken totally by surprise by evidence of affair <BR>11. Length of time most recent affair lasted <BR>a. under 4 months <P>12. Does the Other Person work in same company as betrayer? <BR>b. no - used to<BR>13. Does the Other Person live in the same city as the betrayer? <BR>b. no <BR>14. Does the Other Person exist only in cyber space? <BR>b. no <BR>15. Was betrayer caught “red handed” ( in bed, by pictures or other physical evidence) with the Other Person? <BR>b. no <BR>16. Did betrayer reveal his/her affair voluntarily upon questioning by spouse? <BR>b. no - told without questioning<BR>17. Is the Other Person a friend (ex) or relative of the betrayed? <BR>b. no <BR>18. Is the affair over at this point beyond all reasonable doubt? <BR>b. no <BR>19. Is the betrayer convincingly interested in saving the marriage? <BR>a. yes <BR>20. Is the betrayed spouse convincingly interested in saving the marriage? <BR>a. yes <BR>21. Who has expressed willingness to accept blame for the troubles in the marriage? <BR>c. Both <BR>22. Who is willing to seek counseling or professional advise? <BR>c. Both <BR>23. Has the affair resulted in physical separation of the married couple? <BR>b. no <BR>24. Has the affair caused divorce to be filed by either partner? <BR>b. no <BR>25. Of the top ten basic needs mentioned by Dr. H, select three that were not being met in the marriage for the betrayed wife? <BR>e. honesty and openness <BR>i. family commitment <BR>j. admiration <BR>26. Of the top ten basic needs mentioned by Dr. H, select three that were not being met in the marriage for the betrayed husband? <BR>a. affection <BR>b. sexual fulfillment <BR>d. recreational companionship <BR>f. an attractive spouse <BR>j. admiration <BR>27. Of the top ten basic needs mentioned by Dr. H, select three that were not being met in the marriage for the betraying wife? <BR>a. affection <BR>c. conversation <BR>f. an attractive spouse <BR>h. domestic support <BR>28. Of the top ten basic needs mentioned by Dr. H, select three that were not being met in the marriage for the betrayed husband? <BR>b. sexual fulfillment <BR>d. recreational companionship <BR>j. admiration <BR>29. Is the betrayer currently living with the Other Person?<BR>b. no<BR>30. Is the other person married?<BR>a. yes<BR>

1.a wife<BR>2.b cleaner<BR>3.a train conductor<BR>4.b<BR>5.b<BR>6.c<BR>7.a<BR>8.b<BR>9.a-2children<BR>10.a and b<BR>11.c<BR>12.b<BR>13.a<BR>14.b<BR>15.b<BR>16.b-a week later<BR>17.b<BR>18.a<BR>19.a I think<BR>20.a<BR>21.a<BR>22.d<BR>23.b<BR>24.b<BR>25.a,c,i<BR>26.don`t know<BR>27.a,c,i<BR>28.don`t know<BR>29.b<BR>30.b

1. Betrayed person is:<BR> b) wife<P>2. Occupation of Betrayed:<BR> b) wife-homemaker<P>3. Occupation of Betrayer:<BR> a) husband-law enforcement<P>4. Age of Betrayed Person at most recent time of affair:<BR> b) 30-40<P>5. Age of Betrayer at most recent time of affair:<BR> b) 30-40<P>6. Number of years married when most recent fair began:<BR> b) 5-10<P>7. Number of known affairs Betrayer has had throughout marriage:<BR> a) 1<P>8. Both partners in marriage have had at least one affair each:<BR> b) no<P>9. Number of children involved:<BR> a) in our marriage-two very young children,<BR> b) in other person's marriage-2 children<P>10. Betrayed person was:<BR> b) suspicious due to spouse's behavior<P>11. Length of time most recent affair lasted:<BR> a) less than 4 months<P>12. Does the OP work in same company as Betrayer:<BR> b) no<P>13. Does the OP live in the same city as the Betrayer:<BR> b) no<P>14. Does the OP exist only in Cyberspace:<BR> b) no<P>15. Was the Betrayer caught "red handed" with OP:<BR> b) no<P>16. Did Betrayer reveal his/her affair voluntarily upon questioning by spouse:<BR> a) yes<P>17. Is the OP a friend (ex) or relative of the betrayed:<BR> b) no<P>18. Is the affair at this point over beyond all reasonable doubt:<BR> a) yes<P>19. Is the Betrayer convincingly interested in saving the marriage:<BR> a) yes<P>20. Is the Betrayed Spouse convincingly interested in saving the marriage:<BR> a) yes<P>21. Who has expressed willingness to accept blame for the troubles in the marriage:<BR> c) both<P>22. Who is willing to seek counseling or professional advice:<BR> c) both<P>23. Has the affair resulted in physical separation of the couple:<BR> b) no<P>24. Has the affair caused divorce to be filed by either partner:<BR> b) no<P>25. Of the top 10 basic needs mentioned by Dr. H., select three that were not met for the betrayed wife:<BR> a) affection, e) honesty and openess, i) family committment<P>26. Of the top 10 basic needs mentioned by Dr. H, select three that were not met for the betrayed husband:<BR> Question is not applicable here....husband was the betrayer<P>27. Of the top 10 basic needs mentioned by Dr. H, select three that were not met in marriage for the betraying wife:<BR> Question is not applicable here since I am the betrayed<P>28. Of the top 10 basic needs mentioned by Dr. H, select three that were not met in marriage for the betrayed husband:<BR> Question is not applicable here since wife is the one who was betrayed<P>29. Is the Betrayer currently living with the Other Person:<BR> b) no<P>30. Is the Other Person married:<BR> a) yes<p>[This message has been edited by NoTrust (edited August 24, 1999).]

1. Betrayed person is... <BR>a. Husband <BR> <BR>2. Occupation of <BR>a. Betrayed Husband: Database Analyst (data modeler) Ex Air Force Missileer<P>3. Occupation of <BR>b. Betrayer Wife : Headstart Daycare Teacher<P>4. Age of Betrayed Person at time of most recent affair <BR>b. Between 30 - 40 <BR> <BR>5. Age of Betrayer at the time of the most recent affair <BR>b. Between 30 - 40 <P>6. Number of years married when most recent affair began <BR>c. Between 10 - 20 years <BR> <BR>7. Number of know affairs Betrayer has had throughout marriage. <BR>c. three or more <P>8. Both partners in marriage have had a least one affair each. <BR>b. no <P>9. Number of children involved (fill in blank) <BR>a. in marriage: 2<P>10. Betrayed person was <BR>b. suspicious due to spouses behavior (every time it happened)<P>11. Length of time most recent affair lasted <BR>b. 4 months to a year <P>12. Does the Other Person work in same company as betrayer? <BR>b. no <P>13. Does the Other Person live in the same city as the betrayer? <BR>a. yes <P>14. Does the Other Person exist only in cyber space? <BR>b. no <P>15, Was betrayer caught “red handed” ( in bed, by pictures or other physical evidence) with the Other <BR>Person? <BR>b. no <P>16. Did betrayer reveal his/her affair voluntarily upon questioning by spouse? <BR>b. no <P>17. Is the Other Person a friend (ex) or relative of the betrayed? <BR>b. no, but is in a small way now<P>18. Is the affair over at this point beyond all reasonable doubt? <BR>b. no , still exists in her head and maybe to some degree in his head<P>19. Is the betrayer convincingly interested in saving the marriage? <BR>b. no <P>20. Is the betrayed spouse convincingly interested in saving the marriage? <BR>a. yes <BR> <BR>21. Who has expressed willingness to accept blame for the troubles in the marriage? <BR>b. Betrayed spouse <P>22. Who is willing to seek counseling or professional advise? <BR>b. Betrayed spouse <BR> <BR>23. Has the affair resulted in physical separation of the married couple? <BR>b. no <P>24. Has the affair caused divorce to be filed by either partner? <BR>b. no , she has threatened lots of times<P>25. n/a<P>26. Of the top ten basic needs mentioned by Dr. H, select three that were not being met in the marriage <BR>for the betrayed husband? <BR>b. sexual fulfillment <BR>c. conversation <BR>e. honesty and openness <P>27. Of the top ten basic needs mentioned by Dr. H, select three that were not being met in the marriage <BR>for the betraying wife? <BR>a. affection <BR>h. domestic support <BR>j. admiration <P>28. repeat of 26<BR> <BR>29. Is the betrayer currently living with the Other Person?<BR>b. no<P>30. Is the other person married?<BR>a. yes<BR><P>------------------<BR>God Bless,<BR>Rob<P><BR>

Hi,<BR>the survey goes on!!<BR>Just wanted to move it up for the day.<P>thanks all.

Pilot's Wife - Hi. This isn't an answer to your survey but at least it will move it up to the top again. Maybe I'll give it a shot when I have more time -- I'm posting this from work. (I have to say, though, I've never been terribly fond of surveys.) But I do have a Q that may be relevant to it?<P>After reading stuff about George W. Bush's 1st marriage -- the fact that he was a jet jock in the reserves for a while and that he was a philanderer of the first magnitude, cheating on his 1st W at every opportunity apparently. (Don't take offense, all you Republicans out there! -- I'm going to add that apparently he HAS been faithful in his 2nd marriage.) So, my Q is, do pilots in general seem to have a particularly bad reputation for this kind of behavior? Just curious.<P>Regards and blessings,<P>--Wex