I have been away for awhile. But just to let you know, I keep those at MB in my prayers!<P>A little update. My divorce was final on 4/30/01. I moved out on 2/1/01. Even though my husband was so cruel and I had to move on with my life, hoping he would eventually come out of this fog and realize the deception and lies of the situation he was in with OW, I maintained love for him and my heart never hardened toward him.<P>Well, thanks to the Lord, my XH has been delivered from the OW and the lines of communication have been opened between us. I really think that reconciliation is a possibility, and pray for it daily.<P>Lately, (and I knew all along how tough this would be), but I have been so impatient. My XH has alot to figure out, but one thing I know he has figured out is that he made a tremendous mistake in leaving me, let alone for this OP. I need prayer for myself in that I leave "it" in the hands of the Lord, including the time frames he deems necessary for this reconciliation to happen (if it does). I can't let go of this possibility. <P>I am sooooo thankful for what the Lord has already done. Just with my XH expressing all of the things I so longed to hear him say, and him validating our 13yrs. together have given me a ton of peace. <P><BR>Thanks all!<BR>Petrie<BR>

God bless you Petrie. <P>I have thought of you often and wondered how you were doing. You are still in my prayers. You have come so far. Be patient.<P>Please pray for me as well.

Amen sister, your starting to get the answers to your prayers. That can make us impatient also, but the Lord wants it to be an encouragment and a sign that He is still in control and His hand is on the situation. I find that giving it all to the Lord and trusting Him with it all is a daily thing i must do. I still have days when i feel like its all too much and have since this started 3 years ago. Everytime i want to give up the Lord encourages me one way or the other. A lot of my encouragement is the peace i feel when i pray for God to restore my marriage. It lets me know It pleases God. Keep on praying and believing and trust God on His timing also.(something i still have a hard time with)<BR>Mark

REJECTED:<P>The disciple Peter walked on water! With Jesus holding his hand he actually walked on water, but when he took his eyes off the Lord, he began to sink.<P>Your road is short now, but you are tempted to take your eyes off the Lord, looking ahead to see what's coming. God already knows what's coming. Keep your eyes on Him...His time frame isn't our time frame. His way of working things out isn't ours. BUT His is always perfect!! Don't you want perfection? I KNOW I DO!! THATs' worth waiting for!!<P>God wants to give you sooo much more than you had before. Not just what you had before, but BETTER and more perfect than you had before. That's what I want. That's why I'm trying to stay in his perfect will for me.<P>It's happening for you now, Petrie. Praise God with all your might!! A little while longer wait is not a big thing.<P>In His Love,<BR>Lupo

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Petrie,<BR>Praise The Lord!!! I am so happy to hear of your progress. Have you read the book "Surviving the Affair"? Patty and I are reading it (While I was e-mailing everyone earlier this year, she had two affairs). You may have some tough feelings to work through. I have. I will say this.... Pray hard now for what you want God to do for your husband. God will totally change things for the better in your relationship. God totally changed Patty. I could not have ask Him to do what He has done for her. Our marriage has totally changed for the best!!! <P>Work through all of the feelings with him and your friends but decide to agree on everything with him 1st. There is so much to say. God WILL bring you back together. It IS His will. Pray those prayers I Chron 4:10 and II Chron 7:14 (?). He has such a blessing in store for you. <P>Patty and I have decided to be TOTALLY honest about ALL of our thoughts and feelings. No more secrets. It is the only way to totally love each other. <P>I will check in again soon to hear what you have to say. <P>Ted (and Patty!!) ><> <><

Thank you so much for your prayers everyone!<P>Yes Ted, I have read "surviving the affair", and you know what, thanks for reminding me about it. I need to pull it out again.<P>Greg and I are being totally honest with each other. Greg is so confused right now. I think he cares a great deal about me and is so sorry for what he has done. One of the biggest issues about this whole thing is this: Since he left me, and even though he betrayed me, I still love him. He, on the other hand, even though now realizes how wrong this other relationship was and how it would never have worked out, he doesn't have the love for me anymore. You know, he loves me but he isn't in love with me. Right now, I give him so much comfort and support.<P>I am probably coming across as being pretty low and kind of giving up. I am. I am low and kind of depressed, and giving it up to the Lord.<P>Please pray for us and that we find that true love for each other again. I have it for him.<P>Thanks, <BR>Petrie

Petrie, after 3 years of seperation my wife has fallen compleatly in Love with me again. Even more i believe than the first time 8 years ago. There is hope. We have been seeing each other for 8 months again now and it took her about 5 months of us seeing each other for this to happen. You are in my prayers.<BR>Mark

Petrie,<BR>I am so happy that your husband dumped the OW. That is just gigantic progress. Slowly he will come around. Keep working on being beautiful and kind and generous INSIDE. The Lord is with you. He has just broken a big chain for you. Every bit of time that passes means rewriting the rules and renewing your marriage in Him, so praise Him for this time. The Lord is polishing the rock of your marriage so it will shine like a diamond. If you push too hard, you could shatter it. Things will come slowly and sweetly, naturally.<P>Take care...I am so happy for you.<P>Ted, I am so glad that Patty and you are rebuilding. I think while she was away, she didn't think of it as adultery but as "starting over." Now she knows what starting over really is and she wants you. I haven't forgotten that she asked for a restraining order at the beginning of the year, right? I can't imagine faster progress than yours!! I hope you can fully forgive her and let your marriage bloom in love. God bless you both...

Petrie -<P>You are in my prayers. My life seems to have fallen apart but I am trying to be strong in my faith. No hope for my marriage but I am trying to stay focused on God.<P>Please pray for me as well.

Dear Petrie,<P>You are in my prayers and I praise God for the change in your husband. Keep the faith and keep your eyes on the Lord.<P>gentle