My wife and I have been married for 13 years. She works 2 days a week as a receptionist at a medical practice. This is where she met the OM who was a regular patient for physio. He chased her for 2 years and earlier this year she fell for his advances. The affair started as an emotional connection as she phoned him almost every day and evening. Approx 3 months ago this developed in to a sexual relationship. I was unaware of the situation at this stage when she requested a trial separation and went to live in an apartment approx 2 months ago with my 11 year old daughter. She is now in constant contact with the OM although he hasn't as yet moved in he is often there. My wife and I still see each other 2 - 3 times a week but the relationship is distant as it has been for the past 6 months. I don't want to lose her and am trying all I can to turn the situation around but to no avail. The OM is 41 years old is not employed and lives with his mother he has never been married. I can't work out the attraction. Any suggestions would be appreciated as my patience is wearing thin.<P>------------------<BR>

welcome- i suggest reading everything here and getting some of hartley's books. post and read others stories.<BR>i am sorry that you're here in this place. we understand- we have all been there- on both sides. help is here. take care of yourself and your daughter.

I too am sorry you are here. I have only known of my h's infidelity for 3 weeks and am still absorbing it all.<P>But I agree with the above that you should read Dr. Harley's books, especially "Surviving an Affair". It has helped keep me sane. He goes through in detail the story of an affair where the husband waited 18 mos for his w to come back and end the affair. I don't know if I could survive something like that, but it does have a happy ending, and he does have a real plan even for a case like that.