My wife and I have been married for 4 years. We were very much in love with each other when we got married. We promised each other that this was a one time thing and no matter what happens we will work through things and we will never become a staistic ( 1 out 2 marriages ending in divorce). <BR>Over the years our love has faded away. I have been busy with my work that I did neglect her and whenever we fought we did not really come to a resolution but kind of brushed it under the rug. <BR>For the last year and a half I've been thinking of how to fix our marriage and bring passion into our relationship. Every time I would try, if even I got a slight friction between us I would get mad and quit trying. I just wished I had discovered Marriage Builders back then. I was too busy trying to fix it my way and it never worked. <BR>Four months ago my wife told me that she was no longer in love with me and could not see it ever working out and even if there was a chance she would not want it to work out. Recently she told me that she had an affair with a co-worker who is about 13years older than her, he is single. He moved to Denver and she does miss him sometimes. I asked her if she loves him and wants to be with him. To which she replied that after that night they both admitted it was a mistake. <BR>I have been trying to save this marriage. I have learned a lot from this website and I know where we messed up in our marriage and also know that love can be restored but she argues that how can you make <BR>someone fall in love and it should come natural and she does not see that happening. I have told her that our marriage needs therapy. She agrees with the therapy part but still is not sure whether she wants it to work out or not. <BR>Now she is going to Denver for white water rafting with 2 of her female co-workers and she said that he will be there. She also assured me that nothing is going to happen between them, if even there was a chance, it could not happen because her co-workers will be there. Somehow I don't believe this. <BR>This woman is the love of my life and I was the love of her life. I just can't belive that she has become so stubborn and not wanting to work it out. She keeps saying that she loves me and cares very much about me and does not want to hurt me, but she is not in love with me.<BR>She has finally agreed to go to counseling on Tuesday to Steve Harley. She does believe that God hates divorce. She is mad about this verse in the Bible. She claims that she wants to be happy but not with me. <BR>Please Pray for our marriage

It is incredible how they all seem to say the same thing! I think this really goes to show how boring our little enemy is - very unoriginal and boring. So obvious and so silly. It's incredible that he thinks he is going to win out against the Creator, isn't it? <P>Of course he is going to lose and you are going to help him lose big time by being patient, kind and loving. When you fall, you are going to ask for forgiveness and just like the blood and water that poured out at the crucifixion, the Lord's mercy is going to overflow and cover you and your wife and everyone around you.<P>I would guess that for each of us going through this, for every one of us who stands, 100 people will be saved. That's why our boring little enemy is doing all he can to make us give up and let go.<P>All it takes is a strand of three to knock him out and look how many of us there are reading this forum!! Whoever reads these words, please check in and just write "here" so we all see how very strong we are as a group and our faith increases and overwhelms the little enemy. <P>We are a community and we are a heck of a force! Have you all noticed the victories we are putting in place? Don't give up!! Don't give up!!<P>And now, the best prayer of the Bible. We'll say it together for this marriage and every marriage, to put a hedge around our spouses and bring them back to the Lord and to us:<P>Our Father<BR>Who art in Heaven<BR>Hallowed be Thy name.<BR>Thy kingdom come.<BR>THY WILL BE DONE.<BR>On earth, as it is in Heaven.<BR>Give us this day<BR>Our daily bread<BR>And forgive us our trespasses<BR>AS WE FORGIVE THOSE <BR>WHO TRESPASS AGAINST US.<BR>And lead us not into temptation.<BR>But deliver us from evil.<BR>Amen.<P><BR>

I'm here. Amen!<P>I was feeling pitiful after reading all the postings in GQII last night. I was feeling hopeless and why are we doing this and there was no good news from anyone. But your prayer, Tth, made me remember that we are all winners in CHrist! We are all growing and learning through this process, and no matter what happens to our spouses, God will provide us all we need. We are already victors by grace, because God has lifted us above the enemy enough to trust in him, love our WS's and not give up on them or on the beautiful gift of marriage!<P>------------------<BR>Faith1

I'm here too!!<BR>I am brand new and had to rebuke Satan's attempts to block me from replying to you. I messed up the password given to me and was unable to send my detailed reply. I just wanted to let you know that I want to be counted as standing against the enemy Satan. I hope you get many more to respond. Where 2 or 3 are gathered in the Lord's name it will be done! Thanks for posting. God bless you and all who post here. I spent so much time responding to you and it was all lost because of the password mix up. Like Lupo I need to get busy and get something accomplished now. Hope to respond in more detail at another time, Lord willing.<BR>Love in Christ, Here it goes.......

<B>I ... had to rebuke Satan's attempts ...</B>[/QUOTE]<P>I think Satan must have had a really BAD week-end ! Everyone seems to have had a bad night/morning/week-end, and now there seems to be the reason! <BR>I am having a really hard day (see my other post: Reality time). I need prayer too, and it was good to see OnTheMend write to "rebuke Satan" as I had not done that!!<P>"Get thee behind me, Satan. You are thrown into the pit...away with you...by the blood of Christ we are more than conquerers..."<BR>Lupo<BR>

I am there with you brother. (see...Other Topics= No OM ...But wife not attracted), and( W in need of prayer) in this section. Keep your Faith. I will pray for you.<P>Dear Lord please help to strengthen, guide and protect us. Be with our spouses that they might do your will. Please give us the strength to carry on and Praise thy name. In Jesus name I pray... Amen

Seanboy, Trying is right, the enemy uses the same lies over and over again. Ive heard them all. From , she hates me, to our marriage was never meant to be, she doesnt love me anymore and of course the i didnt think you would mind me leaving cause im no good for you, etc. Ive walked thru the valley of the shadow of death(still there) and after 3 years of seperation, my wife fell in love with me again. I never gave up on her and loved her thru it all. we still have a ways to go cause there are forces that dont like whats happening but i cant deny the miracle of my wife now being in love with me again. I never lost my love for my wife, although at times i tried. I heard the Lord call me from the begining of our destruction and He said He would restore. He didnt say how or when, nor did God give me a clue of what i had to go thru to get there. He told me to forgive her as the Lord has forgiven me and my own unfaithfulness towards the Lord for most of my life. That was hard to hear at the time, but i got the point. Jesus chose to die on the cross instead of lifting his finger and destroying all those who crucified him. It would of been a lot easier for Jesus to lift His finger and do so. But the Glory came in Jesus rising from the dead 3 days later. Many of us have chosen to be crucified for and by our mates and for some of us family members. They think they have destroyed us and the work of the Lord. Satan wants you to believe Jesus didnt rise from the dead, nor can your marriage. The devil is a lier and deceiver. I pray that the Lord raises all our marriages from the dead, so His name shall be greatly glorified and shame the devil. I long for the day when i will stand on satans head and crush it under my feet. Gods going to have to yank me away to give all of you your turns. Our sorrow is but for a short time, but the the enemy of our souls will suffer torment forevermore. He has but a short time left. Do not fear the defeated enemy of your soul. Fear is his biggest tool of deception. Our God is a mighty God. <BR>mark