I just don't know what to do. I have done my very best to be a great wife to my husband and he cheated on me. even after I found out about the affair he continued to see this woman. I have shed so many tears until I just cannot cried anymore. I love my husband so much and I just don't know what else to do. My heart truly hurts, I know that God works in His own time and not mine and I have truly been praying about this for a long time and I have yet to see any progress. Is it that I am being inpatient and trying to work it out myself I know that that is part of it. I know that I have done that because I don't know what else to do. I don't understand how you can love someone and they knowingly hurt you over and over again. Does that mean the I need to be thinking about getting a D I don't even think that I can say the word much less write it! Today I talked to the female the my H had the affair with and she told me that when my H was at work he didn't wear his wedding ring and he told her that we were geting a D, that the papers were already filed and then 1 month later he told her that the D went through and that he lost his chldren in the D. I am a christian I Love the Lord and he is my personal Savior. I also Trust the Lord I know that it does not sound like It is just that I am feeling weak in the faith department. I just don't understand why this is happening Why would he continuously hurt me?

That's a great question. Maybe he just felt the "need" to be selfish or he didn't prepare himself for this sort of attack so he had no defenses ready.<P>What he did was horribly wrong and very damaging to everyone. The way to ensure that the enemy doesn't win is to try to turn this into an occasion where your relationship to the Lord blooms and blooms. You need a lot of help to do so.<P>A lot of people on this forum have read the Harley books about emotional needs. A lot of people also recommend the site restorem.org where you can order very good books which are scripture based. Also Stormie Omartian's book "The Power of a Praying Wife."<P>You are officially in a spiritual battle. You need to get your armor (your preparation through the Word) and your sword (your prayer). You will win this but it takes a lot of patience, forgiveness and most of all, humility (the hardest part of all).<P>I have been here since January - my husband moved out a month ago, but I have never felt the presence of the Lord like this in my life, and strangely enough, it is totally worth the suffering I had to go through.<P>The Lord will bless you and your husband profusely if you stand for him and don't waver. Don't even think about D. That's not what God had in mind.<P>Your husband is like a little mouse being "played with" by the enemy, in the form of a cat. The mouse doesn't realize that the cat plays with it right before he kills it. Your H thinks he is doing fine. He isn't.<P>He is not himself so try not to let him hurt you. You are going to hear a lot of lies come out of his mouth. Pray every time he opens his mouth.<P>Take care - we support you. Please pray for us as we pray for you. God bless you.

I agree with TtH. I'm sorry that you are in your situation, but welcome to the forum and please read and post as much as you can. You'll see in the General Questions forum, lots of stories just like yours. It's amazing that satan is so dumb to use the same weapons on all of these marriages. God wants your marriage to succeed, and He will help you be what you need to be. Pray like never before. I am closer to God than ever and He is showing me how to love Him more. My H had and affair 3 months ago, moved out a month ago, and I still believe everything will work out. We have to give our husbands over to God and let Him do some work. Hang in there. Read all you can to learn about the principles of Plan A and begin it as soon as possible. And pray.<P>------------------<BR>Faith1<P>"Then Jesus answered, 'Woman, you have great faith! Your request is granted.'"<BR>Matt 15:28

Dear Taken, most of us here compleatly understand what you are going thru and he pain involved. Many of us have the same questions, just like Job did in the bible. Like, why me, and i never did nothing to deserve this. God never did answer Jobs questions. The Lord only questioned Job and made Himself known as who He was, GOD...<P>Trying quoted , but I have never felt the presence of the Lord like this in my life, and strangely enough, it is totally worth the suffering I had to go through.<P>This is totally true. In the last 3 years ive never been thru more hell yet i found the Lords presence grow more and more. I found something worth more than my trials. A close relationship with Jesus. Its true that God works out all thhings for the good of those who love Him and have been called according to His purposes. When you grow close to the Lord, you cant go wrong. My trials have been worth it.<P>Dear Lord i lift my sister Taken up to you that you would come near her Lord and give her your peace that surpasses all understanding. Help her to allow you to love her husband thru you Jesus. Heal her broken heart with your love Jesus and give her hope that thhe work you have started you will not leave undone. In Jesus name, Amen<BR>Mark<BR>

Oh, Taken...as I read your post, my heart hurt for you. The ability to love your enemy, especially when that person is such an intimate part of your life can only come from God. <P>Your H is in the midst of a spiritual battle also...and it is not necessarily yours to fight. Unfortunately, many innocent people are hurt during battles. Sin is sin, no matter what form it takes and it damages relationships.<P>Let the Lord be your husband; He knows you better than anyone and loves you still. And He can love your H through you. <P>Isaiah 54:6 "Your were like a woman whose husband left her. And you were very sad. You were like a wife who married young and then her husband left her. But the Lord called you to be his, says your God." <P>

Oh how I know your battle. The Lord has his ways about bringing us to the very bottom in order to get us to turn to him. This is what is happening to your H, it could also be happening to you. During my H's A, it not only brought him to the bottom of the hole, he also drug me with him. I am happy to say that when he hit bottom and we both turned our lives over to the Lord, well you just wouldn't believe the difference. I pray to the Lord Almighty that your H is hitting rock bottom right now and will see how Satan is using him. Please work on him Lord. I pray this in Jesus's name, Amen.