Read my previous thread. I just got a call and it was OM wife and she said she just got a page to my number. I said "no, not this number....." that was all I could say, I think we were both in shock. Who would do this???????????? and why??????

Susan,<P>Some sick person is playing an evil game right now. I have no idea who would be doing this. Try not to let it eat up alive - until you know who is doing it, there is nothing you can do to stop it. You might want to consider telling your H about this - especially after the letter incident. More crap may be following....<P>SORRY! This is really SICK and MEAN!!!!!<P>Roll Me Away

Susan, somebody’s messing with you.<P>This is going to be hard, but you’re just going to have to tough it out. Just like Trolls on the ‘net, if you ignore them they will <B>go away.</B> It may take a while, but if you don’t react, they will go and find their fun elsewhere. If you DO react, they will see they are getting to you, and will continue to get their jollies at your expense.<P>You have an opportunity here, though. As Just Learning said on your other thread, use this as an opportunity to rebuild trust with your H. Print out those timecards, as well as the “It’s Over!” letter you sent to the OM. Look your H straight in the eye, and tell him, “My life is an open book to you. I will do <B>whatever</B> you say, will tell you anything and everything. You just tell <B>me</B> what I need to do to help put your mind at ease, and it’s done.”<P>Then do it. <BR><P>------------------<BR>Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die

Susan,<P>It's just some idiot trying to hurt you... it's just some idiot trying to hurt you...<BR>say it over and over... <P>why are they doing it? who knows? but you can beat this a**hole by making your marriage strong and solid. <P>By the way, what happened last night? Did your H believe you? <P>Remember, this person is a mean and vindictive idiot who does not deserve your effort... your H deserves it and YOU DESERVE IT...<P>I can only imagine how this makes you feel, but you can overcome!! I am so sorry for this hell you're going through!!!<P>~Sheryl<BR><P>------------------<BR>Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss it you are among the stars!!

So.....now do we think that means it is not the OM wife....or would she do this??

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>So.....now do we think that means it is not the OM wife....or would she do this??<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>It doesn’t matter who it is. The only person you need to be concerned about is your husband. <P>Use the energy you’re wasting wondering who it is to <B>WORK ON YOUR MARRIAGE!!!</B> That’s the only thing that matters, right?<P><P>------------------<BR>Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die

Susan,<P>WhoDat makes a great point. You might NEVER know who is doing all this hateful stuff, and in the long run, it doesn't matter. Both you and your H need to focus your energy on the marriage.<P>Roll Me Away

Susan,<P>As I said on the other thread, this is an opportunity to work with your H. Don't waste it with who ever is sending you this letter. They are doing you a BIG favor. Use it and make the marriage what you want. WhoDat is right it is no moment who it is. They are out to get you and it sounds like the OM.<P>Keep your eye on the ball and they cannot hurt you.<P>JL<P>

I'm telling you....it's the other man. I couldn't find your first post, only the last two on this board but it's a very common situation after an affair ends. I'd bet money that it's the OM FOR SURE! Why? Well one reason may be anger at you because your back with your husband and he assumes all will go well for you. In his eyes, you did no suffering from the affair. For him, well his marriage is the pits and he feels you should pay too. Or, another reason for doing this is an attempt to get your marriage to break up. If your husband dumps you then maybe HE can have you. He very well might only be in his marriage because he can't have you and he'd rather be married to his wife then alone.<P>Anyhow, I've never been so sure about anything more in my life then this. It's the OM!!!