After yesterdays fiasco (see update) I have come down from the calmness to irritation at how this man has treated me. I have prayed a lot today about it but I'm just so mad.<P>It's been 70 days since he left and I don't know that I can be a door mat much more.<BR>He has had the kids overnight 6 times in 30 days. Now keep in mind this has been pick them up at 5-630 pm and drop them off at around 630-730 am. He calls and says good night just about every night.<P>What is soooo sad is that the kids don't care that he lives away from us as long as he visits sometimes ??????<P>Says a lot about the role he has played HUH.<BR>That makes me soo sad. My kids deserve so much more and so do I.<P>I did not deserve to have my husband walk out and then throw in my face at will that he "doesn't love me. Probably never did. Oh, and he can date if he wants cause well, "were seperated right?"<P>Where did he come from? This man behaves as though he is someone else these days. This is a far cry from who I married. A realllllll far cry.<P>I am just venting. I know that God will restore it as I have his word and had it confirmed. But you know it gets me.<P>LKD

LKD,<BR>Vent here anytime. I'm so glad that you are focusing on your trust in God!<P>Do you ever read/post on the General Questions Forum? There are lots of people over there going through similar situations, and you can learn a lot about how to Plan A and Plan B with your H, which will help you deal with the day-to-day ups and downs.<P>Just a suggestion.<P>------------------<BR>Faith1<P>"Then Jesus answered, 'Woman, you have great faith! Your request is granted.'"<BR>Matt 15:28

Hi lkd,<P>I know what you mean. My W is pretty much the same way. She told me she doesn't love me anymore and just comes and goes. We still live in the same house, but it's not living. <P>I am praying for you today. Keep praying and keep posting.<BR>Sending good thoughts and caring, and prayers. <BR>29Guy

lkd,<P>Sometimes you have to just close your eyes to their behavior. Look at the spot on the wall above your H's head and don't look him in the eye. He is still under the influence of youknowwho so you have to remove him in your mind and not allow him to take up space. Let him occupy a tiny portion of your existence and give the rest of him right over to Jesus.<P>Nothing you say or do is going to make a big difference right now while he is in this state. Just be pleasant and VAGUE about things. Don't get into details right now until he changes his tune. If he gets you into any sort of conversation he is just going to stab you with an assortment of lies and half-truths. Stay away from talking to him right now but just be sweet and light-hearted and not that interested in him when he sees you. He's going to wonder what's up with you and why are you so happy.<P>He's going to be intrigued by it but still don't get into details - just change the subject and don't give him very much of your time.<P>I think 6 overnights is not bad at all. I also think that we are all lucky that children have such good defenses that they can manage to go on despite the big trauma in their lives.<P>My last suggestion is to pray to the Lord to take away your anger. Ask Him to melt it for you and you will feel so much happier. Anger is a very heavy burden and you're better off without it.<P>Focus on how the Lord wants YOU to change and let go of the changes you want to see in your H. Jesus will take care of that in His time.<P>I hope you are feeling a little better today. Some days are harder than others and you need a little break.<P>Dear Jesus, lkd is having a very hard time lately. Please lean down and scoop her up in Your arms. Hold her close to Your Sacred Heart, Lord and let her feel Your mercy and Your peace. I love you and I thank You for all this grace. Amen.

Oh, thank you all so much. I know. I know. <P>I have prayed hard today. Had my counseling session which was kinda hard but nothing like last time. <P>He came by for kids tonite. Had to return for our daughter as she wanted to continue playing with her friends. <P>Interesting that he had a call while here and made a point to tell his friend that he couldn't work late today or tomorrow as he had the kids. Wow!!!<BR>He was very nice,but when he first came in he said "I wish I had a different job. They're driving me crazy. To which I replied," I thought you LOVED your job." He said, I do. They're just nitpicking me to death."<P>Up down. Up down. Up down. Up down.<P>Well, that is 2 days good in a row which no matter how you slice it isn't bad in a 2 month period.<P>Thank you God!!<P>May God Bless us all indeed.<P>LKD<P><BR>