My wife of over 20 years is divorcing me without cause (my opingion). We are both born-again Christians and didn't believe in divorce (or so I thought). The divorce papers have been filed, and I have two years until the divorce becomes final. We are still in the same house even though she wants me out. She refuses to counsel, or really do anything with me, but she contiunes to play board games with me and our children (ages 12 and 15). She is pleasant and acts like nothing is wrong when we are playing games with our children.<BR>What is up with that? Is she trying to drive me crazy? She has some severe emotional problems which I believe is the reason for what she is doing, but how can she be so nice and still want to destroy our family and divorce me?

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Joe the librarian:<BR><B>She is pleasant and acts like nothing is wrong when we are playing games with our children.She has some severe emotional problems which I believe is the reason for what she is doing, but how can she be so nice and still want to destroy our family and divorce me?</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Hello, Joe. It's good to see you again, tho not necessarily here!<P>Have you read any of the MB stuff from this site? I think I had advised that last time you were here. I'm sorry to hear that things are so difficult at home.<P>Is there any way that you can get a Dr. to say that your W is having emotional problems? Maybe that will negate the Div. papers she has filed. It really DOES sound like she has some emotional problems.<P>I'm very sorry you have to be in this situation. I can only offer to pray for you and your family. I do not know why your W is acting like this. Please seek professional help for her. I really do believe she doesn't know what she is doing, so don't take it that she's doing this TO you, rather that she is very confused at this time.<P>We often refer to our WS's as having a "sickness." In your case, it may well be very true. Please, please do whatever you can to get help for her.<P>God Bless,<BR>Lupo<BR>

Joe, I have been through the same kind of things, too. I have been with my H 18 years, but married only 9. I say, Pray, Pray, Pray.......Keep the faith. God always answers prayers (not always like we like them). But He has a great plan for you. I think that I have gone through my trials, so I can be closer to God. Also, to know that He is our source of happiness, and love, and everything else. My H and I are moving forward (one day at a time), but at least we aren't moving backwards. You have an advantage, because you still live there with your family.....Show them all your faith in God, faith in your marriage, and your faith in your family. Do not let go of that. I know that things look very dark right now, but you are NOT alone. I will say a prayer for you and your family, and I know the Lord will not let you down---He wants so much for you! Keep your faith and God bless!

Hi Joe, Your W may have emotional problems. Thats when the enemy steps in with the lies and deception. She is not the enemy. She is being manipulated by the true enemy. You know the god down below. <BR>Right now she needs lots of prayer and understanding from you. Dont try to figure her out or her behaviour. You cant, cause she even cant herself more than likly. Show her as much love as you can and try not show your frustration. easier said than done i know. Ask God to love her thru you.<BR>Remember your W isnt the enemy, thhis is a spiritual war againts Gods people and its epidemic in our marriages. Our part is to pray and seek the Lord andd to let go and trust in Him compleatly. <P>Dear Lord, I lift my brother up to you that you would give him strenthh and your love to reach his wife that has been attacked by the enemy in her heart and mind. Lord i ask that you would give my brother the courage and strenth to believe nothing is to great for you to handle. Lord reach down into his W heart and start your mighty healing with your perfect love. Give this family the desire to put you first in their lives again Lord. In Jesus name, Amen

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by lupolady:<BR><B> Hello, Joe. It's good to see you again, tho not necessarily here!<P>Have you read any of the MB stuff from this site? I think I had advised that last time you were here. I'm sorry to hear that things are so difficult at home.<P>Is there any way that you can get a Dr. to say that your W is having emotional problems? Maybe that will negate the Div. papers she has filed. It really DOES sound like she has some emotional problems.<P>I'm very sorry you have to be in this situation. I can only offer to pray for you and your family. I do not know why your W is acting like this. Please seek professional help for her. I really do believe she doesn't know what she is doing, so don't take it that she's doing this TO you, rather that she is very confused at this time.<P>We often refer to our WS's as having a "sickness." In your case, it may well be very true. Please, please do whatever you can to get help for her.<P>God Bless,<BR>Lupo</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by lupolady:<BR><B> Hello, Joe. It's good to see you again, tho not necessarily here!<P>Have you read any of the MB stuff from this site? I think I had advised that last time you were here. I'm sorry to hear that things are so difficult at home.<P>Is there any way that you can get a Dr. to say that your W is having emotional problems? Maybe that will negate the Div. papers she has filed. It really DOES sound like she has some emotional problems.<P>I'm very sorry you have to be in this situation. I can only offer to pray for you and your family. I do not know why your W is acting like this. Please seek professional help for her. I really do believe she doesn't know what she is doing, so don't take it that she's doing this TO you, rather that she is very confused at this time.<P>We often refer to our WS's as having a "sickness." In your case, it may well be very true. Please, please do whatever you can to get help for her.<P>God Bless,<BR>Lupo</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by lupolady:<BR><B> Hello, Joe. It's good to see you again, tho not necessarily here!<P>Have you read any of the MB stuff from this site? I think I had advised that last time you were here. I'm sorry to hear that things are so difficult at home.<P>Is there any way that you can get a Dr. to say that your W is having emotional problems? Maybe that will negate the Div. papers she has filed. It really DOES sound like she has some emotional problems.<P>I'm very sorry you have to be in this situation. I can only offer to pray for you and your family. I do not know why your W is acting like this. Please seek professional help for her. I really do believe she doesn't know what she is doing, so don't take it that she's doing this TO you, rather that she is very confused at this time.<P>We often refer to our WS's as having a "sickness." In your case, it may well be very true. Please, please do whatever you can to get help for her.<P>God Bless,<BR>Lupo</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Lupo Lady<BR>My wife is on medication and has been for several years. She is also seeing a secular therapist to help control her eating disorder (I really could go on and on like she has had cosmetic surgery three times before she was even 40, all unnecessary in my opinion). However my lawyer who is also a Christian told me that having emotional problems can hurt her in trying to gain custody, but they (the courts) even let crazy people get divorced (in Bucks County Pennsylvania anyway).<BR>