My 14 year marriage is in the divorce state. My husband will not go to counseling and is not willing to reconcile the differneces. He has been acting very irrational for several months and I am hoping and praying that God will help bring him to his senses and reunite our family. Thank you. <P>------------------<BR>Katie

Hi Katie,<P>I'm in my fourteenth year too. Maybe your husband is feeling old and trying to recapture his youth like mine is. People who have no faith try reverting back to the teenager days, avoiding responsibility, lying about what they do, avoiding any type of confrontation...<P>God made over 5 billion of us but He's keeping track of you. You are not the one who is in control here so don't feel like you can influence your H too much. <P>You do need to try to fill his emotional needs as best you can but it sounds like he doesn't want your love right now. I know that is terribly horribly painful but he is probably just in a "me, me, me" stage.<P>Every one of us can improve our relationships and how we behave but sometimes no matter what you do, things seem to fall apart. That's when you really need to turn it over to the Lord and Him take care of it.<P>Dear Jesus, Please give Katie some sign through her Bible reading that You are in charge. Grant her the patience and the endurance to handle this big test You have allowed. Let her grow in her faith and build up others as she courageously stands for her marriage. I ask this in Your Holy Name, Jesus Christ of Nazareth. Amen.<P><BR>