I just wish my husband would come and get the rest of his things so I can stop looking at them. Spoke to him today while he took son to the docotor and he had the nerve to look at me with a sad face and tell me he loves me. I wanted to slap him silly. It was his choice to move in with her, so he shouldn't be telling me he loves me. His mother is just so upset that this might just put her back in the hospital. Everyone is telling him what a fool he is, and he admits it but somehow it just dosen't matter. This Thanksgiving and Christmas will be so hard but I pray that I will survive if not only for my kids sake. Only thing that keeps me going is looking forward to moving to atlanta.<P>------------------<BR>

Neicy,<P>I'm sorry. I'm hurting too so I know how you feel. I'm not in a good state of mind to offer anything encouraging right now, but I just wanted to say I understand.<P>SHA

{{{{{{{{{{Neicy}}}}}}}}}}<P>This is so hard for you... <BR>especially when you thought things were going your way....<P>One that we can all agree on... <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>The emotional impact of an affair on a betrayed spouse is incredibly powerful. (page 19 of SAA)<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Your H is still ill... he is addicted... <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>The power of unmet emotional needs explains why people are willing to give up their spouses as well as their chilren, careers, and beliefs to have their emotional needs met. (page 31 of SAA)<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>The book makes it clear... words like...<BR> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>"Stay out of my private life", "I'm disappointed you don't trust me", "I can't remember", "We're just friends", and "I just need some time away to think things through" (pages 40-44 of SAA)<HR></BLOCKQUOTE> are hell.<P>We who have to suffer the holidays through the agony given to us by the betrayers... will in time... come out better... <B>but yes</B>... the waiting is pure torture... <P>SAA:=<A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi6070_sa.html" TARGET=_blank>"Surviving An Affair"</A><P>Prayers for the distressed... <P>PS: please update your profile... it changes quickly.<P>Jim<BR>------------------<BR>I can dare myself... I'll put a pebble in my shoe...<BR>I can walk... I can walk! I shall call the pebble Dare...<BR>Dare shall be carried... And when we both have had enough<BR>I will take him from my shoe, singing... "Meet your new road!"...<BR>Finally glad... Finally glad... That you are here... By my side...<p>[This message has been edited by NSR (edited November 24, 1999).]