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I'm new to this.I've been married 16 years.We have 3 kids(15,11,5).Husband is 16 1/2 years older than me and was married before.He claimed to be a christian when we met but I've seen no fruits of this in all these years.He insisted we get married right away and said God wanted us married-he said I was a new christian and i needed to trust and obey. i had an abusive homelife growing up and he said I needed to trust and let somebody take care of me and love me.He refuses to pray with me or get counseling.His eyes are closed to everything...including the kids being into witchcraft(my counselor know this and has talked with the kids!)...he says ouija boards are fun and the kids are just being kids and to let them raise themselves!The physical abuse is there and now my kids are just as violent. I know that we need a godly husband and dad and if he would just submit to God and dedicate his life to HIM and our marriage and family...this is our answer but he's fighting against God an not me...but it hurts so much...now he's keeping the kids from me. he filed for divorce and his attorney is an awful man...he hates women and hates christians and was even threatening to me in the courthouse. I no longer have an attorney...mine only took my $ and never filed ANY papers...and wouldn't get my counselor to testify, or hold my husband in contempt of court...it's a mess!Now I've been told my an attorney that husband's attorney walks on water...I said only Jesus did that and she said he is Jesus in that court cuz he's ex-military and so is the judge...this judge is know for not being fair...which is exactly waht is happening...I'm scared. To top things off our house was broken into last week...things just keep getting worse!!!I miss my kids...the 5 year old is being hurt and wants to be with me...but we have to wait for court...this isn't fair.I pray and pray and pray...all I do is work and pray and read my bible. the only good thing is that one of my bosses came to church the past 2 Sundays...she isn't a christian and hasn't been in any church in 7 years...so I'm doing whatever my Lord wants...I just want to hear Him...please pray fro my discernment!!!
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mylove50us,<BR>I will pray for you that God will help you handle one problem at a time. That's the best advice I've had. Do what you can today about one circumstance and pray about that one thing. I think I would start with the situation with your children. If things are as you say, I want to assume it's better for them all to be with you. So today let's begin to petition God to do that. Please try to stabilize yourself enough to pray for your children, to love them when you do see them and ask God to show you how to get them back. And DO NOT think about what your husband and his attorney are doing. Focusing on them will only bring you more heartache and bitternes. Focus instead on a daily basis on what God is doing in you and for you. He is a faithful and strong Father. His judgement is much higher than the judge in your divorce court. Your heavenly Father loves you and He loves each person involved in this. Don't let your children doubt that you love them and God loves them. Keep telling them you love them and you want what's best for them. One day they will not be able to argue with that if it's true. Don't panic about them being with their Dad because they will sense that you think there's something terrible about him. That's probably not good for them especially since they are living with him for now. I am seeing my kids do better the less I say about my H. Instead ask questions, ask them is everything ok, ask them do they need anything, show them that you are concerned about their welfare. Don't put him down and don't put them down. Your time with them has to be influential for good. It seems you are trying to walk by faith, so apply that to how you speak about anyone, including your husband, his lawyer and that judge. Tell God how awful they're acting and leave it with Him. I'm afraid your kids will hear it and get scared. And they will begin acting out their fears. I just read something encouraging. The moment we send God a request that is in His will He begins to work. We may not see it now, but one day the answer will come. Remember that God's delays are not the delays of inactivity but of preparation. God is always answering prayer. Romans 8:28. Be encouraged. Trust God.
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Dear ML50, the fight is the Lords. Read 2 chronicals 20;12-22. The psalms of david also have many examples of armies againts him, yet they were in reality againts God and we all know the outcome. Do not be dismayed. <P>I to have armies againts me. Now that my wife wants to come back, my rich family is using there power and money to keep that from happening.(my sis has my son) W's evil family is doing the same with cult like control and manipulation. (my wife is manic depressant and very unstable)My step daughter is 12 and they are trying to alienate her from me. (we were very close) Now the armies againts me have joined forces. Its looking like biblical proportions now. But guess what. They are not just againts me. They are againts the living God. It is a dreadful thing to fall into the hands of the living God. I pray He has mercy on them. <BR>Take your eyes off whaat the enemy is doing and put it on God. <BR>Dear Lord, i pray that you would protect my sisters children from the occult influences in theiir lives and guard their hearts.Humble her H to the point where he has nowhere else to turn but to you Lord. Give him a road to damascus experience and change this mans life.<BR>In Jesus mighty name, Amen<BR>Mark
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I will pray for you and your family. May God bless you always. May you have love and peace in your family.
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