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Please pray for us tonight. <P>My husband is coming over and our daughters are going to be giving him letters they have written about how devastated their lives are. He has not seen them in three weeks since he left. <P>Pray that I would not say anything that God doesn't want me to say. <P>Pray for his heart to be softened towards me. He says he misses me but not the way it used to be (fighting). I told him I don't miss fighting either but God has changed me and I want to be the Godly wife God wanted me to be 17 years ago but had to do a work in my heart first. <P>Pray he will want to spend time with me soon.<P>Thanks,<BR>Pray2Day<P>
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Prayer works! Don't stop! See, he's already coming and he will begin to see a change. I really hope it turns out well. I have really studied and prayed to become the wife of Proverbs 31. Have you read the book "The Power of a Praying wife"? It has 30 or 31 chapters (something for everyday of the month to pray for) and the first chapter is on 'his wife' praying to make you the wife God intended you to be and pray to be able to see your H through God's eyes (this really helps in forgiveness or when you're not thinking so highly of him).<P>God had done so many miracles for me just from my praying. Let us know how it turns out.
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very hurt,<P>Well, it went about as good as could be expected. My daughters gave him their letters and there was silence for awhile. He finally started to speak and I could not believe what he was saying. The lies from the pit that spewed out of his mouth were unreal. I felt like I had satan sitting on my couch. He is so deceived. He talks like I was a monster and he was a saint.<P>It was very emotional on us all and he left very quickly after the girls left the room. He could not be with me for a minute. <P>Please pray for him and he said he has not begun to deal with what he is doing to us the past two months. He is not willing to work on our marriage and said "God has done all he can and he is done with us." I get so angry when he talks like this. <P>I have been reading a book called "The Excellent Wife" it is really good. Also God did a miracle in my life back in July and changed my hardened heart towards my husband. He gave me a love for him that I have not had in years. Then God exposed the affair!!<P>I have been so loving, kind, affectionate, etc.... Since the affair was exposed. I told my husband if God can change me in the middle of finding out my husband is commiting adultery then he is a miracle working God. He does not believe I have changed and thinks it is a plow to win him back. I respond with why would I want you back after what you have done to me. This truly must be God changing a heart.<P>Please pray for him to believe the truth and begin to see my through Christs eyes. I also believe in the power of prayer and I am believing for this affair to die a quick death. I know I don't stand a chance at winning his love until she is out of the picture.<P>Pray for her to be laid off or find a new job.<P>Pray for my husbands living situation (he is living with her and a bunch of relatives). He wants his own share rental but we can't afford it. We also have a trailer that he could live in but is deciding to stay with her until he finds something else.<P>Thanks,<BR>Pray2Day
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Pray2day,<BR>I'll be praying for your situation. Don't lose heart! His lies are just an indication that Satan is on the defensive. <BR>And you are exactly right about God's timing in revealing the affair. That's what happened to me. He was preparing my heart so I'd had a strong enough love for him to beleive enough in the committment of our marriage to endure whatever Satan had to dish out. Satan is soooo evil and cruel and he doesn't care who he hurts. I'm sorry your girls have to see their their dad being used by Satan this way. But that's all it is. You know better than "anyone" else what kind of a husband he is capable of being with the Lord's help. Keep hope it's going to be soooo worth it!<BR>You and I both know that we need to set an example to the generation coming up what it's going to take to survive this life on earth and that's drawing close to the Lord and REALLY trusting Him not just SAYING we trust Him.<P>Lord God, Mendor of our hearts and marriages, be with Pray2day, her husband and their daughters. Thank you for preparing P2D's heart in advance for trusting You and for helping her to see beyond Satan's lies and claim the hope and healing for their marriage and for a life too beautiful to imagine right now. Sooth the wounds that result from Satan's attacks that has hurt the girls and their Mom. Help P2D assure the girls that their dad is going to rise above all this and be a better dad and husband in the end. <BR>Lord please build a hedge of protection around him and reveal your truths to him. Thank you Lord for guiding P2D to the REAL ANSWER and the Hope for a truly happy and fulfilled marriage and relationship. <BR>In Jesus' name I pray amen.<BR>"Let your gentleness be evident to all" Philippians 4:5<BR>Keep Hope!!!! <BR>ONTHEMEND<BR>
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I will be praying for you. Remember it isn't our spuses we are fighting, it is satan. He has his grips on our husbands/wives and it's time we tell him to take a hike and take back what God has given us. Please visit <A HREF="http://www.restorem.org" TARGET=_blank>www.restorem.org</A> <BR>It is a good site for encouragement and it is all scriptual.<BR>Barb<P>Feel free to email me if you need a friend. I am on yahoo.
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ONTHEMEND,<P>It is so amazing how God prepares our hearts for what is coming down the road. That is one thing I have questioned is why would God change my hardened, bitter,angry heart and give me love, compassion, and mercy for a man that tells me he is in love with another woman and has lied to me for over a year and the lies just keep coming?? The only logical explanation is that God was preparing me so I could be the wife he wants me to be to my husband when he comes to his senses and realizes what he is doing.<P>I have so much faith at times and then when you hear him talk about how he has made his mind up to terminate the marriage I loose hope.<P>God have me a promise on Sunday and said he would be healing my marriage and it would be a complete healing and I was to wait two years for this complete healing to take place. He told me my H would be coming home sooner but the complete healing would take two years. I just pray I can stay hopeful while I am in the midst of this storm.<P>I have never been in such a spiritual battle. God must have great things planned for my husband. In fact my daughter (16yrs old) is going off to Bible College next year and want to be a Pastor. I don't think my husband stands a chance with going through with his "new" life. <P>Please continue to pray for him. I had a dream last night that I was with him and her and told her she needed to stay away from him and he was crying because he did not want to lose her. I was comforting him.<P>God Bless,<BR>Pray2Day
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