Please help.....me and my husband have been seperated for almost 4 months now. We seperated becasue he got physically abusive one day, and I left and asked him to go to seek help. I told him once he did I would come back home with the kids. <P>During our separation, I would continue to be fulfill his sexual needs. I guess I wasn't pleasing him enough. Becasue I found out yesterday that he has been having an affair with a young girl she is 20 yrs old and he is 30.<P>The part that I cant understand is that he brought her into our home....he had sex with her in our bed, on our couches, and in our car. I am totally lost for words and really dont know which way to turn. I am so hurt I feel like I want to die. I have never felt this way about anything. It feels like he took my heart out and ran over it with a lawnmower. I just feel numb. I didnt even sleep at all last night. I just need some advice from anyone. <P>I found this all out becasue I spoke to the girl, and then I just started asking questions to my husband, regarding different issues, and he confessed. He doesnt know that I talked to her at all....but is it a good thing that he confessed????? I dont want to go back to that house we own together.....I dont want to ride in his car either. <P>My husband is trying to blame me for his actions becasue he feels as if I have been cheating on him, since we weren't having sex on a regular basis. I didn't have the desire to make love to him much, after he was violent with me.<P>He claims he used a condom, but in the same sentence he says it wasnt planned. How can he use a condom in our house (we didn't use them) if it wasnt planned. Sounds like it was planned to me.<P>The biggest problem I face is that he won't go to seek help. He says if I come back home we can talk about it. I want him to agree and get the appointment before I come back (that is if I go back) that way it will show me that he is willing to make our marriage work. I have known him for half of my life, and I don't really want to toss 14 yrs away. <P>Please send comments and advice.....I need some help and for the religious people, PRAY FOR ME!!!
