Hello Marriage Builder brothers and sisters in Christ. I have not posted in a while because I have pretty much given up. I have appreciated your suggestions and prayers however, especially lupolady. My wife is cold, cold, cold. She says she doesn't want to be with me anymore. I tell her that is not scriptual, but she doesn't care. I put up a post about church discipline a while ago, every response I got from Marriage Builder people was against it. It doesn't matter anymore because she resigned her membership. She loved our church. <BR>The thing that gets me the most right now however is how she is destroying our family. Doesn't she realize the harm this will do to our children. The terrible example this is to our children. We are in the same house (I'm not going to leave, she wants to divorce) but I believe it would be better if she were to leave. Then my children would not have the confusion of having their mother, who should be the ideal example of womanhood in their lives, be around them every day being a bad example of a Christian woman.<BR>I am not looking for responses just giving you a (sad) update.

<I>I am not looking for responses just giving you a (sad) update.</I><P>Joe,<BR>I know you said you were not looking for responses, but doncha know I ALWAYS have to have the last word!!) <P>I'm so sorry you feel this way, and I can't blame you, when you see nothing but negative all around. BUT this is Satan's tool. Please, "HANG IN THERE!!" This is good advice I just got from someone on the "inside" who SEES what my WH is doing, and how things are going. YOU and I don't know what is going on the heart of the WS, but we know this is a spiritual battle. Let's fight it in the Spirit, which has been given to us. <P>I will pray for strength for you while you endure this terrible trial. PLEASE, please - if you are going to GIVE UP - then just <B>GIVE</B> YOUR WIFE <B>UP</B> TO JESUS.....<P>I will pray for you, and your children NOT to be harmed any more by this situation.<P>Our Heavenly Father,<BR> We lift Joe and his family up to you now Lord. We know Joe loves you, and his wife USED to but doesn't think so now. Father, she feels far from you and gives Joe and his children no sign that she cares about anything that used to be dear to her. Father, please turn her heart back to You. Lord, in Your Love and Mercy, make her eyes to see again, and melt the ICE in her heart. Lord Jesus, DO NOT let Satan have this dear one of Yours. Call Your sheep, which are Yours, who know Your voice, and which You will not lose one of. Father, we know that you make miracles from nothing, and Lord, this looks hopeless, but we know from experience that that's <I>exactly</I> the kind of situations you work best in! Work a miracle for this family, Lord Jesus. Your blood was shed so that evil and sin could be taken from us....we ask for the evil that has overtaken this woman be cast far into the sea. Holy Spirit, work in her heart to fill it with God's Word, memorized scripture and God's loving voice, NOT confusion, and disinterest. Please grant me this request, Father, as I was feeling sorry for MY situation until I read about Joe. Then I realized how selfish I was acting. Forgive me, Father, my unbelief. Oh, Lord, I KNOW my Prodigal is going to come home, so please, Father, give Joe the comfort that You are there with him, and Your Will is being done, and Your grace is sufficient.<BR>"Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things NOT seen," and we want to be men and women of faith, Father. Please teach us how. Amen.<P>Joe, I know you didn't ask for replies, but I did it anyway! I never was any good at taking orders!<P><B>DON'T GIVE UP 5 MINUTES BEFORE THE MIRACLE.</B>

Joe,<P>Don't give up, everyone is praying for you. God will work you just need to trust him and remember his schedule of what gets done when maybe different from yours.<P>You are walking a tightrope right now and God is the focus at the other end of the rope. Don't look down and around at whats going on around you, it's just put there to make you doubt and make you wobble. Youre wife's fog and lack of interest is whats making you wobble. Remeber there are many restored marriages where the WS has told the BS they want a divorce.<P>Pray that God lift you from your pain, and heal your marriage. Take 2 sheets of white paper. Write all your fears and worries down on one sheet of paper, inlude the resentment you feel towards your W. Pray that God will take these things and he will work on them for you. Remember to pray for those who hurt you just as much as you own prayers. Take the sheet with the text and rip it up! Now take the blank sheet and remember thats what God just did for you in your prayer. He's taken your worries fears pain and he's dealing with it now.<P>My prayers are with you.<P>Plec.

Joe,<P> I am praying for you. Please try not to focus on the circumstance and focus on God. He can do anything if we let him. Let go and Let God. My hubby told me last October he hated me, but we are friends right now. Don't push the Lord or anything on her. Pray, Pray and Pray some more.<P>Barb<BR>morriggs@yahoo.com