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Will I am sure very few of you know my story. In a nut shell my wife felt neglected so had an EA and decided she got married to young and wants to try the party scene. We are each others one and only sex partner, we both believe in God, and we are breaking up on good terms (actually we have been crying this whole week).<P>The request is this. She is going into a lifestyle where random sex is okay, drugs are okay, drinking is okay, etc... She needs prayer to be safe and the strength to say NO. She just wants to party and go bar hoping without having to worry about anyones feelings except her own. This whole week she has been saying she does not want to ruin anything we have.<P>Thank-you for your prayers!

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Listener,<P>I felt like she is feeling before. Then after<BR>I knew I loved my husband he left me. God has a way in bring us closier to Him. You keep praying for your wife and showing her love and all this will pass. God is calling you both to be closier to him. Please go to this web site if you haven't been already. This is were God starting talking to me. <A HREF="http://www.restorem.org" TARGET=_blank>www.restorem.org</A> <P>In Him,<P>gentle<p>[ October 13, 2001: Message edited by: gentle ]

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Thank-you for the prayers. My wife has since she left joined a bible study group. Gone out once with all of the ladys from our bible study group. And is suriously thinking about not doing her nude photos, mainly because men are pigs.<P>Please keep praying that she clears up all the confusion she is in and starts to get her emotions back under control.

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Hi<BR>I just wanted to add that the lifestyle<BR>your wife is looking for is full of emptiness.<BR>I remember thinking I was missing out on the<BR>"good" life, but came to find out the good<BR>life is where you make it.<BR>I'll pray she finds her way back to you.<BR>Take care.

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I really feel for you. My wife was going down the same exact road in Feb of this year. We did the counseling thing, cried a lot, work hard and now she says she loves me. I say all that to say, God is the one who restore our situation totaly. He will do that for you guys also. Pray, Pray and Pray some more. When you can't pray, just cry out to God. Read scripture to God. He will heal the marriage even if only one can ask him at the moment. <p>I truly believe that.<p>Waitingonlove

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Update<p>Thank-you everyone for your prayers. She did you move out and three days later had one of those horrible experiences you would wish on no one. I think she may have realized a lot of things because of it. The last four days she has felt like we have a chance and that she has truely been missing me. We both decided she will stay moved out for a couple of months so she can "grow up" she is only 20 and does not know who she is and what she wants to do with her life. But we are going to start dating and hopefully sleeping at each others respective homes until she moves back in.<p>She also has finally found her own reasons not to sleep with someone. Problem is it is a very high possiblitiy she still will once she gets drunk. So prayer still needed since she knows it is stupid to get drunk, but has no reason not to so far.<p>Otherwise thank-you for your prays this last week was a huge step in the right direction for us to stay together. Though I realize there is going to be alot of heartache and pain yet to go through before we have worked out our diffenrences and realize what it means to love the other person.

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Be strong in love and faith. You too, have my prayers. Our stories are all unique, yet seem to have one horrible aspect in common. God can heal us. We must give this over to Him. Your W is hurting--her soul is crying out for love and cannot find real love right now. She thinks she can find it w/other men, alcohol, and drugs. They will only relieve her pain temporarily, but when she wakes up from the hangover or whatever, she's still the same person. Same hurts.<p>Somehow show her that the only way to satisfy a soul is to find our Creator. To look for the only unconditional love in the universe. Ask a wise person (minister, counselor, trusted friend,) how would be the best way to show this to your wife (talk, send her book, tape, video?). Wish I knew. Not an expert, but am paying for a good one now. <p>Just to let you know, you can make it. Gotta be strong and show W what strength a H can really have. I admire you. Feel the peace knowing that you are being prayed for. <p>"Therefore put on the full armor of God so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground; and after having done everything to stand."

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Hi -<p>Did you ever visit www.restorem.org? They have some great stories of healed marriages to lift you up. I will keep praying for you and all of us on this forum.

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Thank-you for your prayers! Wife and I are dating again and going to Jen the counsellor her at Marriage Builders together. So things have been looking up for about 5 days now.<p>Tryingtohope: Yes I did. I read what I could, but it seems you have to by there stuff first before getting really far into there website. Was only on there website an hour so I should go look at it again.

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I am SO happy for you. <p>Jesus, keep blessing this man for his faith and bring his wife home so that the two of them can witness for You and bring others home to You. Amen.

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Will thank-you for your prayers, but it is over. My W came over last night and said it is finished. It is her choice to try plan B even though she has no clue what it is. The thing that scars me the most is she thinks she is going to loss her self in the bars now.

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Listener, it sounds a lot like how it started with my W and I. My W also was part of a womans bible study group. All i can say is its going to take a lot of faith to make it thru this. Your W has been taken captive by the enemy and you need to continue to pray for her. Shes in Gods hands no matter what, and shes going to learn some very hard lessons. I dont know anywhere in the bible where it says marrying too young is an excuse to give up a marriage. Its acually a great blessing, yet so many continue to but satans lies.
Do you want the Lord to restore your marriage? Is anything to hard for the Lord? My marriage is on the road to recovery after 3 years of seperation and my story is one of the worst. <p>Dear Lord, my brother is hurting and disallusioned by his Wife being taken by the enemies lies and deception. I ask Lord, that you would open his eyes to his own deception that the enemy has already won, and his wifes eyes , that she has taken the wide road that leads only to destruction. Lovingly guide his W back to you Lord, and her Husband. May they both find a greater relationship with you Lord, at the end of this trial.
In Jesus name, Amen
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