Well, to all of you have been paying attention to our situation, I am home now. I had a great road trip and all of the guys that I got to work with, on this one, were awesome!!! Christine (the OW) was gone all week on holidays with her husband, and so the temptations were all but squashed to call her. It was kind of relaxing to find that I didn't have to make any conscience decision to not give her a call. I simply could not call. Now she has returned to the office, and I did have to talk to her about my next assignment. It was very difficult to not just jump in and say "how are you dear", but I did seem to manage. I think you guys are all very helpful and I hope to get continued support through all of the good and bad times to come. Thanks for being there for us. I'll post again soon, seeing as this was just a note to say that I'm back home. See y'all soon.<P>------------------<BR>We stumble and fall sometimes, and that hurts. But it is the most incredible realization when you look and see that it was your spouse that picked you back up......<P>Take care of and Love each other.....Arik<P><BR>

2 soulmates,<P>Damn... I'm proud of you...<P>Come on... let's get this "2 soulmates" named changed immediately... <B>please</B>...<P>"wayward no more"<BR>"back home"<BR>"no more OW"<BR>"withdrew" (well maybe not )<P>The hard part is coming now that contact has to exist...<BR>Think of your W... <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Permanent separation not only helps prevent a renewal of the affair, but it is also a crucial gesture of consideration to the betrayed spouse. (page 55 of SAA)<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><BR>You've got to be serious about this... <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Without total separation, marital recovery is almost impossible. (page 56 of SAA)<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>You've goto tell you Wife first... I forgot if you have done this or not?<P>You've got to tell the OW that the relationship is over (letter on page 58-59 of SAA)... <B>please</B> do this with your wife... <B>not alone</B>!<P>Think about how you can show to your wife through <B>extraordinary precautions</B> you can guarantee separation from OW...<BR><OL TYPE=1> <BR><LI> Changing jobs or relocating (tough one... brainstorm this with W!)<BR><LI> Blocking all communication (phone, e-mail, pager, etc.)<BR><LI> Accounting for time<BR><LI> Accounting for money<BR><LI> Spending leisure time together (not just with the guys)<BR></OL>This will not be easy... but it is what you need for "withdrawal" to be complete!<P>SAA:=<A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi6070_sa.html" TARGET=_blank>"Surviving An Affair"</A>.<P>There is <B>no</B> question of support here... You'll get it! FREE! NO CHARGE! (who ever said you get what you pay for!) Now work on building your marriage! <P>Prayers for you on a thoughtful Thanksgiving eve. <P>Jim<BR>------------------<BR>I can dare myself... I'll put a pebble in my shoe...<BR>I can walk... I can walk! I shall call the pebble Dare...<BR>Dare shall be carried... And when we both have had enough<BR>I will take him from my shoe, singing... "Meet your new road!"...<BR>Finally glad... Finally glad... That you are here... By my side...

Glad you're back, 2S. Keep up the good work.<P>And you two have a great Thanksgiving!!<P>Lori

2s-just have to say I agree with NSR-time to do a name change. I hope you appreciated the week without temptation and spent some time thinking about other things, like maybe your wife, I think she would appreciate that! Anyhow-Glad you are doing well, keep up the good work and may you have a very thankful Thanksgiving! God Bless!<P>------------------<BR>Chick's <BR>Bren<P>You won't see things until your ready to not be blind!<P><BR>

I agree, change the name... it's driving us all bonkers <P>You're doing great!!<P>------------------<BR>Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss it you are among the stars!!

Hey, It is good to have you back. I am glad that things went so smoothly.<P>Just keep working hard at getting back what you had and things will slowly work themselves out.<P><P>------------------<BR>God Bless you and yours,<P>Sheryl W.<BR>