Hello, <p>Please pray if you read this. My WH is starting to see what a strange person he is involved with. He is wanting to come home more and is spending two nights this week here.<p>I pray for him to be enlightened and to seek the Lord and I pray for this OW that she understands fully what she has done and repents and leaves us alone. I pray for both of them to convert and for my H to return home. I pray for me to change and to be calm and loving, slow to anger, patient and kind.<p>Thank you to all of you who join me in prayer and I pray for all the troubled families on this forum.<p>God bless you - hang in there, I am seeing great results after 10 months now. We all need to hang tight and have faith - the Lord is great!

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Tryingtohope:
<strong>My WH is starting to see what a strange person he is involved with. </strong><hr></blockquote>
Trying,
This is WONDERFUL news!!! I'm so happy for you! Remember, watch for major waffling, though. He could be still foggy....<p> <blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>I pray for this OW that she understands fully what she has done and repents and leaves us alone. I pray for both of them to convert and for my H to return home.<hr></blockquote><p>I'm afraid I can't be as "magnanimous" as you can! I have asked the Lord to give me compassion for "our" OW (mine and WH's!), and pray for her salvation too, but I just can't make myself be obedient in this area at all times. I don't HATE her, I just don't feel enough (love) for her to pray that she is saved. This is gonna sound stupid, but I guess part of me feels like, "What if she gets saved, and then he's so happy for her that he really wants to stay with her?" Stupid, huh? [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] <p>I had the opportunity to give my WH his Bible last week, so I DO pray that the Lord is starting to work on his heart, and maybe she'll see changes in him she doesn't like.....I dunno. I'm having a really hard time this week-end. Lots of doubting.<p>In any event, I just wanted to rejoice with you over the turn of events you are seeing. PRAISE OUR GOD indeed!<p>Lupo<p>[ October 28, 2001: Message edited by: lupolady ]</p>

Lupo, <p>If this OW in your H's life starts to read the Bible, she is going to feel convicted. It is very clear that adulterers are not going to make it into the kingdom (unless they repent of course.)<p>Jesus says it isn't enough to call Him Lord, Lord and cast out demons. We have to do His will. These OW are NOT doing the will of the Lord, which is self-evident. Therefore, do not be afraid to pray for her conversion because she will take herself out of your life the minute she asks Jesus to forgive her.<p>I think you are doing so well. Don't let the evil one get to you. I sort of let him in the other day by trying too hard with my appearance and thinking about trying to look good for my H and for others so they wouldn't think I was just boring and sad. Well, he bit me really hard the very next day. I know that's what it was. So I told myself and the Lord I wouldn't wear those too modern, sort of sexy things anymore and think of pleasing Jesus before my H and after that, my peace returned.<p>Whenever we fall off our peaceful wagon, we have to think about what it was we might have done to give the enemy that opening. And then close the gap in our own hedge!<p>Anyway, you are such a great person - so full of life and you have the greatest sense of humor. Your husband is surely not 100% stupid. He is coming back. Go on with seeing other friends (I don't mean men) and working on your faults. He will come back. Don't chase him, you don't need to. I am SURE he is coming back but we all need to get ready ourselves.<p>You can't imagine the miracles I am witnessing and the number one miracle is the peace in my heart. It isn't over yet - I am leaving it to Jesus to decide when He wants us back together but the important thing is to break this relationship up and for me to know the Lord's will better for the rest of my life.<p>Take care and I will pray especially hard for you today so you cheer up. You are so loved by me for all your great posts that have really broken through to me when I was so down and discouraged and getting off track.<p>Love, T

Trying,<p> Glad to hear that things are starting to go your way, and that God is showing you the way. 10 months is a long time to wait I applaud you. Not saying that I won't wait 10 months it just seems so distant. I'll keep praying for you and your H.
God Bless you and your husband. God is great.<p> Az.

Trying, thanks for your upbeat post to me! Thanks for the compliments, too! I'm feeling a little better now that I've been "filled" with worship today, and preached at....
I sorta high-jacked your thread, here, tho, sorry about that!<p> <blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>If this OW in your H's life starts to read the Bible, she is going to feel convicted<hr></blockquote><p>Ya, see, my *stupid* imagination is saying "If she is saved, then they'll see a reason to stay together! NOT that then he'll KNOW he's supposed to leave her and come home, and SHE'LL be convicted enough to tell him to do so......" how dumb.....I am falling for ALL of the enemies lies this week!! I went to a different church last week, a very alive church. I KNOW God was there - BUT when the pastor met me, he looked deep into my eyes and then said, "I'm supposed to tell you - you are NOT what the enemy is telling you you are. Do you get that? You are NOT what the enemy is telling you you are. I started to protest, "But I wanted prayer for my backslidden H...." he cut me off and REPEATED it, saying "this is about YOU" I was so confused.....I'm STILL confused. I don't LIKE confused, it's not from God. I have prayed about his statement and searched the scriptures for help and still have NO idea what he meant. I mean, I "hear" stuff from the enemy - like I said above.....BUT mostly it's not about ME, it's about "the situation" overall.....<p>Other than ME not feeling like I'm "good enough" or "ready" or "ever going to be with my H again..." that sort of stuff is the only stuff I can imagine....I don't "beat myself up" too much anymore over things. I've repented, been forgiven for my "sins" in our M problems......<p>Therefore, do not be afraid to pray for her conversion because she will take herself out of your life the minute she asks Jesus to forgive her.<p>Thanks! I'll try to be more obedient and pray for her......<p> <blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>...think of pleasing Jesus before my H and after that, my peace returned.<hr></blockquote>
Oooh, this is GOOD!! I have been praying that the Lord would have to be my H for now, and take my earthly H's place while he's "gone" - I guess I wasn't doing that.....you just showed me HOW to let him do that.....<p>He will come back. Don't chase him, you don't need to. I am SURE he is coming back but we all need to get ready ourselves.<p>Interesting thing that you just said.....Just THIS MORNING I was praying about calling him. I haven't called for a while now, I WAS calling every week - about every 5 days. Then THEY went out of town last week-end, and I haven't talked to him since before then.....I felt I wasn't supposed to call him. But then this morning I felt lonely and wanted to call him. I got the *strongest message* of "DO NOT CHASE HIM." Just as you said! Now I'm sure God is doing a work, and doens't want me mucking it up!!!!<p> <blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>You can't imagine the miracles I am witnessing and the number one miracle is the peace in my heart. <hr></blockquote><p>Yes!! The peace is gone!! I can tell.....I have to pray and find out what I am doing to lose it and get it back!! That is what I am feeling this week-end....the peace is not there. I really much rather prefer being "in peace" and not this turmoil.<p>
<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Take care and I will pray especially hard for you today so you cheer up. You are so loved by me for all your great posts that have really broken through to me when I was so down and discouraged and getting off track.
<hr></blockquote><p>Thanks for that.....it means a lot. In fact, it reduced me to tears!! you have NO IDEA how much I needed a lift today!! Now it's your turn to "lift me up" and get me back on track....<p> I THINK IT WORKED! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Thank the Lord for YOU! May He richly bless you!
Lupo<p>[ October 28, 2001: Message edited by: lupolady ]</p>

Dear Trying, you are still in my prayers. The Lord is faithful, even when we are not.
One thing i have learned along the way, however is not to trust in circumstances, both good and bad. I still havent compleatly learned it yet, but i really try.
When i fall back into my own strenth as i do often, i become angry, resentful and want to give up. Right now im trying to get back to Gods strenth, and am having a very difficult time doing it. The enemy has been relentless. I could write a book on all the warfare of just the last 6 months. Now that my W and i are close again, all hell has broken loose. please pray for us. My W cant handle the attacks. She doesnt have the mental capability for it. I dont even think i do either.
I dont know if im trying to understand what cannot be understood. I flat out just dont get it.
I pray the Lord sheds great mercy and grace on you and cuts your trial short.
Mark

Mark, I always remember you even when you don't post for a while. I want to ask you a question off the forum. A while back you gave your email address. Would you mind giving it again or would you rather not?<p>Thanks for posting and helping me. You are a wonderful friend and I appreciate it a lot. I am worried about you though and I think you need a break.<p>Take care - T

I do need a break and told my W that yesterday. I think im enabling her to not make any true commitment. She wants to prove so much to so many. She wants to prove she can make it on her own, and i wish she could, but she cant. Its like she wants to keep riding a bike until she doesnt fall down anymore and she wants me to hold onto it while she rides it. Then she wants to believe she can ride a bike all by herself. She has drained me financially as always. I pay for everything as always. I am growing so frustrated. She is very mentally ill and prideful and that is not a good combination. I dont know what to do. Nothing seems to work. Ive tried for years(8 years total) to get thru to her. She has overdosed and faced death more than once. She has lost everything and im afaid she still hasnt hit bottom. The whole world is falling apart right now and W only worries about what mommy thinks and wants. I just dont get it....
Mark mauer62@hotmail.com

You are being prayed for. You have a courageous spirit and are willing to go the extra mile, when others have not been so brave. Let the A die a natural death and try to do the only thing that has worked for me. Pray (alot, and do I mean that), and get out of the game. You can't be the bad guy anymore if you're out of the game. Don't communicate anymore w/OW. We only look like we're insecure and bad guys. Let them bring about their own undoing . A verse in Proverbs chapter 11 tells of how wicked people will be brought down by their own wicked ways. Be confident in your love for your H and family. Know that we are praying for you. Stand tall, knowing that God is holding you up, even when you feel your legs can no longer hold the weight any longer. <p>Again, I am praying for you and for all who I read about here. Our God is incredible. The greatest physician, healer, and friend. Did we also forget to say miracle doer? Got a CD that has been so healing and loving to me, yet gets out the kind of poison that's been infecting our souls-anger and betrayal. Jennifer Knapp's--Lay it Down. I listen to that and do that every day. Lay it down. Give it over to God. Be strong in knowing you are doing all you can do, but vigilently give it over to Him every day. Be strong in knowing you are not alone, that loving strangers who exist out there in an electric city, are praying for you. That even God shows his love to us in the smallest of ways. Keep it up. You can do it. As mother Teresa said, "You cannot do great things, only small things with great love."<p>"Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes you may be able to stand your ground; and after having done everything sto stand."