My husband and I have been separated for four months. He is living with the OW and also works with her. In the past month he has really been missing me alot and thinking of coming home. He did come home for two days and then left again saying he couldn't live without her.<p>Last Saturday he told me and our daughters he would be home soon and to keep praying for him. A few days later after we had lunch together he said he thought he was ready to come home but is not. I became very upset and asked why he would tell us he is coming home and then say he is not. He ended up yelling at me to leave him alone and hung up on me. I left him several voice messages and he has not called me back. <p>I am devastated by how well we were doing and then because I asked him about his decision to come home he got angry and now we are not speaking.<p>Please pray for him to make up his mind. He tells me so much negative about his relationship with the OW and then in the next breath says how he can't live without her.<p>He says he is loosing his mind. He now says he is in love with two women. This is much different than when he left and said he was filing for a divorce because he didn't love me anymore. Now he says he does love me but also loves her. I have told him he can't love us both. I will not have him home if he continues to see her.<p>Pray for the ow to be removed from his life. She works with him and they also live together.<p>Pray for the fog to lift and that he would repent and come home.<p>Thanks and God Bless,
pray2day

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by pray2day:
<strong>My husband and I have been separated for four months. He is living with the OW.<p>Pray for the ow to be removed from his life. She works with him and they also live together.<p>Pray for the fog to lift and that he would repent and come home.
</strong><hr></blockquote><p>Pray2day:
This is where I am too. My WH is still living w/OW. I have begun praying for her, for salvation, but also that she would "tire" of him, or he of her. I now truly feel that God wants me to do this....I am having a very hard time wanting to pray for her salvation, but I know that she needs the Lord, too.<p>When he first left to move in w/her, he wanted nothing to do with me, even wrote in a letter that we would have NO CONTACT except through his atty. Now, however (ONLY through the power of prayer, I'm SURE!), we talk on the phone regularly, and I have even visited with him once! I know it's a long, slow process, but I KNOW God is working.<p>Your H's feeling like he's "losing his mind" is a GOOD thing, according to MB old-timers.....it means he is confused and doesn't know what to do! That means the fog IS lifting. I know My WH is feeling VERY bad, very guilty. That is also a good thing. I don't have to do a thing, except pray, which I do!<p>I will pray for your H, too, that he has his eyes opened by the Lord, and hears God's "still, small voice" telling HIM what God's will is for him. It's SOOOO obvious to US, isn't it?!?! [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] <p>God Bless,
Lupo

Hi Pray2Day,<p>You don't have to win every battle in order to win the war. There is no way that any of us is going to have a straight line to recovery. There will be some great victories followed by devastating defeats. Don't lose heart. He loves you. He is drugged by this woman.<p>I have the image of my husband being bitten by the snake and the venom just pouring through him day after day. I prayed for the snake to let go, and I think he has lately, but there is still plenty of venom in his veins. Worse, he will probably invite the snake to bite him again, which is what your husband did.<p>You don't want him home till he's ready. It would be devastating to all of you to watch him go back to being weak and drugged, filled with lies again. Let the Lord finish cleaning him up before he comes home. Keep praying for the Lord's will to be done and don't call him to come home. Don't chase him but let him come home because he has woken up. I'm sure he will. You are doing great so far and the fact that he says he loves you is absolutely huge. Time is on your side and so is Jesus. <p>Remember the song: "Be not afraid. I go before you always. Come follow me, and I will give you rest."<p>The Lord loves you and will turn your husband's heart but He wants a full conversion so keep praying and I will pray with you.<p>Lots of love, T

[QUOTE]Originally posted by lupolady:
I have begun praying for her, for salvation, but also that she would "tire" of him, or he of her. I now truly feel that God wants me to do this....I am having a very hard time wanting to pray for her salvation, but I know that she needs the Lord, too.<p>Dear Lupo,<p>I have also begun praying for the ow. She is a practicing Buddhist from Laos. In fact my husband asked me a few weeks ago if I would pray for her. He is worried about her soul and what will happen to her when they break up. I told him yes, that I am praying for her salvation and that she would meet a "Godly Single Man". I could not believe we were having a conversation about me praying for her. My husband asks me to pray for him alot and also has asked me not to give up on him. <p>I know his heart is changing and I will continue to believe God will restore my marriage. <p>
Your H's feeling like he's "losing his mind" is a GOOD thing, according to MB old-timers.....it means he is confused and doesn't know what to do! That means the fog IS lifting. I know My WH is feeling VERY bad, very guilty. That is also a good thing. I don't have to do a thing, except pray, which I do!<p>Yes, my husband says he is confused and does not know what to do. He even said he wished someone would tell him what to do. I told him I will not tell him what to do and he agreed that would be best. He then admitted that he knew what to do but just doesn't know how to do it. (End the affair and come home!) Sounds simple but for men disengaging is very difficult (according to Men in Midlife Crisis book). <p>How is being confused show that the fog is lifting??<p>Thanks,
pray2day

Tryingtohope:<p>Thank you for your prayers and encouragement. Thank you for noticing that just because of one mistake doesn't mean the battle is lost.<p>My prayer has been for God not to bring him home until he is done with this affair. He has already come home two times in four months and continued to lie and see her only to leave again. I cannot go through that again. So, I need to be patient while God is transforming my husband. <p>I do believe God is performing miracles in my husbands heart everyday. I have had so many answers to my prayers in the past few months. <p>God does answer prayer and I will keep believing for my miracle to come home.<p>Take Care and God Bless,
pray2day

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by pray2day:
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How is being confused show that the fog is lifting??
</strong><hr></blockquote><p>Well, I can't quite explain this, but it is a quote from a FWS named [H]. If you haven't heard of him, he posted during the summer (June? July?), in GQII. I'm sure you can find all his posts under a search. He put them all in one comprehensive post (VERY long) just awhile ago. I THINK it's called "Diary of a Madman." It was VERY enlightening for me to read.<p>In fact, when I first came on this sight, I was encouraged by all the articles which offered HOPE, when I felt only hopelessness. THEN [H] started posting - cause he had just come OUT of the fog, and everything he posted was SO encouraging to me! HE'S the one who first said when WS starts to get confused, it's a sign the fog is lifting, and a GOOD thing! Since [H] had "been there...." I didn't question his statement, just accepted it!<p>It makes sense, if you think about it. My WH thought he knew EXACTLY what he wanted. He went to atty and began div. process, then wrote a note, and moved out, saying he wanted to NEVER have contact w/me anymore. Now, after 5 months, we talk, and div. proceedings seem to be "on hold." I realize that could change tomorrow. I just continue to pray to the Lord to stop it, and change WH's heart. I know He will!<p>Lupo