My own thoughts, feelings and prayers to the others hurting out there. Please pray for me. <p>
Thank you for reading. If you haven't read my post in "pre-marriage and the early years" It explains the situation I'm in. <p>I never thought much about God, My now ex fiance Goes to church every Sunday. And when she said that we were done, and she wouldn't take me back I was devistated. I prayed and I asked God to help me regain what I had lost, and I felt I really needed to get on the computer.And for the first time in my life I felt guided by God. I went to the About.com home page, and I ended up here. I have already begun to see a little bit of hope after reading the Concepts. <p>Anyways, Could anyone out there please pray that I get a chance to impliment these concepts. First of all, she is so preoccupied now, I think it would be impossible to spend 15 hours a week alone with her, because she has gotten herself into so much stuff to keep herself Busy. I want her to be interested enough in me that it becomes a priority for her too.I'm willing to make the time, But I fear if I ask her to spend 15 hours alone with her every week, that she will push even farther away from me. <p>Please, God got me this far, And I know that he can help us to have that time together. Please pray.

Am praying for you. If you don't have it, get the NIV Bible soon. Being raised a strict Baptist, I only read the King James. I got stuck in the muck of the "thus and thine" and it was hard to digest. Changed denominations recently and re-connected to my faith. The NIV has helped. Keep to the principles here. Try reading a book by Dobson, Love Must Be Tough. Be reisilient and strong and show her your soul. Just don't try too hard. Let her see it from afar. We're praying.<p>Most of us are married and are not where you are right now. That's ok. But know that maybe God is leading you in a different direction, toward a more beautiful future than you could imagine. You're not married yet, no kids, not possibility of enduring a D yet, so rejoice in that too. That you have a cleaner than clean slate that God's constantly wiping for you. Limited baggage. Consider that if this doesn't work out. Saw what time you posted and figured you were up all night thinking and praying. Try to rest. It's hard, but try. Work on just you and your relationship w/God. In your job, just concentrate on that. Doing positive things for you can do wonders for your soul and self-worth. Know that personally. Keep up your chin. We're praying! <p>"Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes you may be able to stand your ground; and after having done everything to stand."

Hello,
I am very sorry you're hurting but glad you are turning to God. There is nothing like the peace of God to comfort you. It will. You have to keep praying and not look at the circumstances.<p>God bless you and I will pray for you, too. If the Lord wants you to marry this woman, you will. Just do His will as best you can and you will be happy inside with a deep sense of joy and peace.

Bless God,<p>I just recieved an e-mail that said I might be able to get a job locally. It's in the same city as her!!I thanked God for that and I continue to thank him. <p>Her and I are on friendly terms now. We were just talking and she wants me to call her back. She's talking to "another" guyfriend as she puts it. Anyway. the best I can do is the best I can do. and thank you all for your prayers. My Love and Prayers with all of you.<p>Jarrod

Jarrod, I pray that the Lord would help you to see clearly as you draw nearer to Him. Dont trust your emotions to be the will of God in your situation.
It is good that you have turned to the Lord in your time of pain. He probably wants to spare you great pain , most of us here are going thru.
My advice to you is run from her as far as you can and never turn back. You dont want to have to go thru this , when kids and a marriage are involved. Its a hell you cant imagine. This is probably a pattern of hers and they usually return. Marriage is one of the most difficult and couragous acts we can do in life. Under the best of circumstances it is very difficult. Find a woman that will love you back. Dont be in such a hurry to get married. Its not what you may think...
Mark