Please pray for my husband. He came home two weeks ago after being gone for 5 months. He was repentent and wanted to give 100% to our marriage. <p>I took him back with open arms, and a loving and forgiving spirit (only by the grace of God). We were both soooo happy to be together again. So were our daughters (age 13 & 16)and dog.<p>The ow called him after three days and he went to her house to be intimate. Then he called in sick one day at work and spent the day with her. He called that night to say he wouldn't be home because he couldn't get over her.<p>Three hours later, he shows up drunk and tells me he came to tell me he is leaving me. He then passed out in the chair and never went back to her. He said he knew what he needed to do and would be home tonight.He continually said he needs to be home and not "go there" with her.<p>He was even talking about leaving his job (they work together). He was even praying and reading Gods word with me daily. We were getting along so good. But the pull of the affair won him over.<p>Well, one week later, he never came home. He left me a voice mail saying he was going to drink a few beers and would talk to me later. <p>This is the third time in 5 months that he has come home and said "I can't get over her." <p>How long does this go on?<p>How long should I keep letting him back in?<p>Any comments are welcome.

Pray2day:<p>I'm so sorry, I don't know what to say. I have no words of wisdom for you, since I'm not "there" yet. (After reading your story, not sure I want to go "there"). I have been having a hard time this week, myself, believing that there really CAN BE any hope after all this.<p>I hope someone who's "been there, done it..." will answer your post. I'm just so heartbroken for you. All I can say is, I will pray, HAVE BEEN praying for your WH, he's in such a deep deep fog, he can't get out. The addiction is soooo strong, it's amazing.<p>Will he counsel with Steve? or Jennifer? I think one session with either one of them might make him feel better about all this, like help him see that these feelings he's having are perfectly normal. Maybe that's the part he's wrestling with? Thinking it must be "real love" since the feelings are so intense?<p>Our Heavenly Father,
Please help Pray2day's WH to see the way home. Father, he is putting up a good fight, but his addiction to OW is strong. Lord, TAKE HER OUT of his life in a dramatic way. Please help this family get past this horrible trial. Lord, we know that the enemy fights his hardest when he's about to lose a major battle. Please, Lord, give Pray2day the strength to hold on til the battle is won! Father, we KNOW you can win the battle, but our flesh is weak, her WH's flesh is weaker. Strengthen his resolve, Lord, and get him OUT of that situation ASAP. Give Pray2day the right thoughts and words to use to her children, her H, and help her own thoughts to stay focused on YOU during this trial, Lord.
We know you will do ALL to be glorified in this situation, Lord Jesus, so just give us the spiritual strength to TRUST you for it all. Lord, reveal yourself to OW, and show her how WRONG her relationship w/Pray's WH. Thank you, Lord that we can lay all this at your feet, and watch you work miracles for us! All because of Jesus....and nothing in us. For His Glory, we pray. Amen.<p>Lupo

Dear Pray2day, i have been there and done that. Its caused by the combination of drugs, alcohol and other person. The enemy also hates to see someone whom is fighting sin and trying to repent. As long as drugs, alcohol and OP is there, the devil has a foothold. The spiritual warfare can get real bad, when someone half heartedly tries to reach out to the Lord. The enemy also hates your prayers and faith with a passion and will stop at nothing to destroy it.
Our mates get stuck in a viscious circle of seeing the hurt they cause us, and the children involved. They will escape the pain and guilt at all costs, thus causeing more destrution and then they have more reason to escape. Drugs, alcohol and Affairs are the 3 biggest escapes. They feel they failed, us, God, the kids,etc, so why not continue to fail. They live under a delusion.
My W strung me along back and fourth for the 1st year and a half of our seperation just like your going thru, hurting me to the point of suicide, cause it was pure tourture to me. She's still doing it after 3 years, but in different ways now. The enemy has also found new and improved methods. Turn my entire family againts me for wanting my marriage restored and her satanic family of course is still againts me.
She has now been told if we get back together she will loose our son. Now you would think i was the one whom left to be a junkie and became a convicted felon, but i was the one whom was left, crying oceans of tears and praying. I am treated by my own family and hers as someone worse than her, and believe me, thats almost impossible.
I cant deny the devil has got his hand in all this. He has declared an all out war on me. Even a non christian can see that. My W does want our family back now, but is listening to the lies, instead of the truth like usual. She is trying to please everybody. We have to have our relationship behind, my family and hers backs. Why? She doesnt trust God at all. She has only seen what my faith has done to me.
I have been to hell and back, more than once in all this. I want to give up. I want to be done. I cant take it anymore. I want to die. I can hear the devil say, if i give up this nonsense about God restoring my marriage, then and only then will the devil leave me alone. But i have a problem. I know the truth and i cant say it has set me free, but i know the truth. The devil is a lier and a deceiver. He will never leave me alone. He will continue to destroy my life. Im one of Jesus's choosen. I AM SAVED FROM HELL!!! I still dont like the no guarentees here on earth,but what can i do. Right now i have no strenth left. I give up. Its all in Gods hands. I can do nothing. Been here many times. I dont even like having faith. It hasnt been any fun.
Some might not understand this, but giving up is a good place to be. Its humbling ourselves to the Lord and saying we cant fix our GOD sized mess's. Not to be confused with giving up and moving on with our lives. That means, im going to do it MY way now God, cause your way sucks....Its liberal theology. We acually, contrary to poular belief, get on with our lives everyday we get out of bed. Now i have had some days, when i didnt want to get on with my life and didnt get out of bed, until they came and got me and put me in a looney farm , but that is a different story.
How have i made it thru all this? Only God knows and it was Him whom brought me thru it all.
I suppose when my day is done, my attitude is, i will be damned if the devil is going to win this war. Do you see what the enemy has done to your M and life? You want to get him back? Trust God to heal and restore. May God get all the glory. If God wants the glory He is going to destroy the works of the enemy. Its just our job to believe He will in fact do just that, and we are going to be tested. The greater your faith, the greater the tests will be. I havent passed all my tests, but somehow God has keeped something alive in my heart thru it all.
When things get to heavy and painful, go somewhere to be alone and cry out to God and sit there until He shows up to comfort you, refusing to leave until he does. May God give you His strenth to make it thru to His glory.
Mark

Dear Pray2day,
Don't give up. I hope you can see the struggle that your H is having with it. He has no peace. He tries to numb the pain of being torn by using alcohol. My H used the computer. He was on it day and night to take his mind off dealing with it.
Those were some of the signs that told me the devil didn't own him.
The fact that he wants to leave his job may be his way of checking to see if he's not around her at work that maybe you and him might have a chance. He might be trying to rule out some things in his own mind to give himself some space from her and see if he can move on.
Just keep waiting on the Lord for what He's going to do with the different ways your H is trying to
deal with it all.
Keep taking one day at a time.
Lord, please reveal to Pray2day Your hand on her H. Encourage her in some way to help her keep standing for the healing of their marriage.
And please come against anything the devil says or tries to do to convince her husband that their marriage could never be all that they could ever want, because it's all lies. You are the Truth Lord and I pray you keep revealing the truth to Pray2day each and every day. Continue to supply her with the conviction and strength to keep standing for her marriage until you restore it. And we know you will Lord because those who trust in you will never be put to shame!! Comfort her and encourage her Lord and help her to see past the outward circumstances and see the husband she once knew and knows better than the OW will EVER know! Help her to remember you love him too and want his soul as well. Please remember their children Lord and supply them with whatever they need to cope with the present situation and give them hope that they will be a better family in the end.
Thank you Lord for all you're doing for this family and for what you're going to do.
Continue to encourage the others on this site and remind them of what's ahead for them. They will NOT be put to shame! Bless them daily Lord for the trust they are putting in you, because that is what you really want from all of us.
In Jesus' name I pray,
Our hope and our Redeemer,
Amen.

Jesus, This is so hard for us. We know we are your warriors but sometimes we can't battle like we'd like to. Remember us, Lord, and strengthen us. Increase our faith and especially please give us some JOY.<p>Pray2Day is suffering something very deep and incredibly painful. Your enemy is twisting the truth. Help her H to desire You and salvation and give her the strength to do what is right. I pray for the children and for the wicked OW to be convicted in her heart and turn to you, leaving this family alone forever.<p>Amen.

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Tryingtohope<p>Thank you for your prayers and encouragement. I do not have a happy ending to this story today. He came and took everything he could fit in his truck. It was a very sad day for me and my daughters.<p>He is so lost and blinded again. The same lies he listened to four months ago have come back again. This is after two months of praise reports and his heart changing towards God and me.<p>Yes, I am very discouraged and feel little hope for him and our marriage right now. I will recover from this but not without scars.<p>He wants me to divorce him but I told him NEVER will I file for divorce. He is so controlled by this woman and cannot see it. He sees her as wonderful and me as horrible (after being together 24 years) <p>Keep us in your prayers.<p>God Bless, Pray2day