Please pray for me and my ex. He moved to NYC 2 weeks after our divorce in July. We have a 4 year old son together...we are here in TX. Please pray that he realize that he loves me and this is where he needs to be.<p>V

Winchet,
I am so encouraged by people like you who contin-ue to seek restoration even after a divorce. I believe there is nothing too hard for the Lord.
Besides, the way I read Scripture it is not in the Lord's will for us to marry another after a divorce unless it is to remarry our exspouse.
If people realized that they wouldn't be so quick to divorce because the grass wouldn't look so green on the other side!
And it is so important for the children to be in ONE home with the parents in a love relationship with one another. No matter what the age! My sons are 23 and 21 and it is still extremely important to them to be able to have hope for their future marriages or relationships. They need examples of people willing to stand for their marriages.
Besides, we still have the ability to influence our kids even at their ages, they are watching to see how we handle it.
Lord, if it's your will for Winchet and her husband to remarry, please make a way! Give her husband a desire to reunite with his exwife and son. Most of all, draw him to You. You are so patient with us Lord, please provide Winchet with the patience and hope she needs to wait for him. In the meantime, guide and reveal Winchet to your will for any changes you'd like to make in her to be used to serve You according to your will. Thank you for her desire to stand to reunite their family, bless her and her son with all they need as a single parent family.
Thank you for what you are going to do in their lives Lord. In Jesus' name I pray, Amen.<p>[ November 25, 2001: Message edited by: ONTHEMEND ]</p>

Thank you so much for your beautiful prayer...your encouraging words brought tears to my eyes. Thanks...
Val

Is it possible for someone to gain respect for you again after it is lost? Tonight he told me that getting back together wasn't hopless until recently. He before the actual divorce he still thought I was special and that our marriage just didn't work out. He said because how I acted during the divorce and how I wont stop calling him and stuff now puts us in the "hopless" category because he cant respect someone with low self esteem (although everyone else thinks I'm overly confident...I'm only like this w/ him) and that he respects himself too much to get back w/ me. He said if he ever wanted to get back with me he would then have issues w/ himself. Please help...any advice and prayers would be appreciated.

Val,

I will be praying for you. Please give him some space and don't call him all the time. That is only pushing him away more. Please visit www.restorem.org it has been very encouraging for me. And email me if you need a friend.
Morriggs
morriggs@yahoo.com

Hi - this is a hard one for me too.<p>The other good website besides this one and the one Moriggs mentioned is www.restorem.org.<p>They say not to contact him but let him do it. It's true that men like to be the hunters. Let him do some work.<p>Easier said than done but you need to throw a party and have some fun so he'll want to join your fun lifestyle. (keeping your values of course.)<p>I don't know about you guys but I need help in not flirting with people even by email.<p>God bless you - let's stick together and we can win. We're on God's team - there's no way we can lose the game, right?

Thank you guys so much...its so hard...I want to call him right now...Just please pray that he will wake up one day and realize that he feels differently. Its never too late is it?

HE CHANGED HIS PHONE NUMBER!!!! Is all hope lost? I don't even have a way to get a hold of him if I needed to because of our son (I shouldn't need to unless of an emergency) He says he cant talk to me until I am over him or like someone else because I am too crazy...He is being soo crazy himself...how would he expect any sane person to act when he sends soo many mixed messages....I truly love him and wish that the Lord would just change both of us so that we could finally get it right. Is it possible that he will feel differently not talking to me? He isnt coming home to visit until Jan...so thats a least a month away....I am soo upset....I just want my family back together....