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I would really appreciate it if someone could pray for me right now. My husband is the WS and engaged in a full-fledged affair...I, on the other hand, am aching inside because I am so lonely (and horny!) and ended a few weeks ago a brief relationship with a man/friend with whom we had a sexual relationship. I did this because I knew morally it was wrong and felt like in God's time, He would restore my marriage and how could I expect my husband to end his A while I was having one myself. <p>But I am really struggling with continuing to do the right thing. I know God wants to and can meet my needs but I feel so lonely and depressed right now, knowing that my husband is getting his physical needs met by the OW.<p>Can someone out there please pray for for me? I need to believe that God's goodness is still there and that He cares and right now I don't feel that way.<p>Thanks. [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img]

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Dear 4m&m5,
Hang in there and hold onto God by faith. Faith is faith and feelings are feelings, they do not fit the same mold, like water and oil, entirely two different things.<p>In other words, God's forgiveness is not based on your feelings, it's based on the shed blood of Jesus. Forgiveness for sin was bought and paid for through Christ's shed blood. So, it's not what WE can do to get forgiveness, it's about receiving the Lord's provision. We might not feel forgiven, but feelings don't change a thing. Faith in God's provision says we are. Period.<p>You are right that it is not an excuse to just keep on sinning. Maybe there is some light at the end of this dark tunnel for you? Maybe it will get darker and darker before it gets lighter? God can turn your husband's heart toward home, but your husband has a mind and he will do what he will. In the meantime, all you have control over is yourself.<p>God can help us deal with the desires of our flesh, but we have to be willing to ask Him for help when we are struggling, and ask again when we need more help and keep on asking and receiving in our most desperate times of need.

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I need prayers for my marriage and for myself. I'm not in love with my husband anymore but really want to be. He is trying really hard to make things work but I just can't feel anything right now, we are going to counseling and trying to work on it. Any prayers would be appreciated.


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