YES, I AM ANOTHER WOMAN ASKING FOR HELP TO RECOVER FROM MY HUSBANDS INFIDELITY. WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR ALMOST 6 YEARS - TOGETHER FOR 7, I HAVE A 6 MONTH OLD SON AND WAS RECENTLY INFORMED THAT MY HUSBAND HAS CHEATED ON ME. WHAT THIS HAS DONE TO ME EMOTIONALY AND MENTALY IS MORE THAT I CAN DESCRIBE IN WORDS. I FEEL LIKE A FOOL ~ EVERYTIME I SAY THAT I THINK OF HOW STRONG I ONCE WAS AND HOW I RESPECTED MYSELF THINKING I WAS FORTUNATE TO HAVE A "BETTER" MAN THAT WHAT WAS OUT THERE. THE SACRED SACRAMENT OF MARRIAGE THAT IS CHEAPENED AND DEGRATED BY AFFAIRS ---- THE DAMAGE THAT IT DOES AND HOW AM I TO CONTINUE TO BE BY HIS SIDE AND BE THAT BETTER PERSON. ALL THE TIME KNOWING THAT HE DID THIS. HE SAYS "HE IS IN LOVE WITH ME --- HE WANTS TO WORK ON OUR MARRIAGE" ~ I DON'T KNOW IF IT IS OUT OF GUILT FROM HIS RECENT ACTIONS OR IFIT IS "BS"! I HAVE FAITH IN GOD --- I KNOW GOD IS ALWAYS PRESENT, I JUST DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY? HOW CAN ALL THAT IS GOOD/SACRED BE SMEARED? ALL I THINK OF IS MY SON ~ AND ME --- THERE ARE MEN OUT THERE THAT DONT CHEAT! I AM CONFUSED - MAD - ANGRY BEYOND WORDS - AND ABOVE ALL I AM HUMILIATED AND DISCUSTED WITH MYSELF FOR STILL TELLING HIM I LOVE HIM. I SET MYSELF UP FOR FAILURE. I AM LOST IN A WIRLWIND --- I PRAY FOR DIRECTION - HOPE - AND THAT "THIS TOO WILL PASS". ANY PRAYERS AND WORDS OF ASSISTANCE IS MOST HELPFUL. I CANT TELL MY FAMILY ~ THEY KNEW WHO I WAS ONCE (THAT STRONG WOMAN) AND I DON'T WANT THEM TO THINK OF HOW STUPID I AM FOR STANDING BY A MAN WHO DID THIS TO ME. PLEASE, PLEASE ---- I NEED HELP. THIS IS MY APPEAL TO YOU.

Bridgett,
I am so sorry you need to be here. I too am a strong woman,independant, unafraid, able to leap tall buildings (well almost).
This brought me to my knees. I cried, I lashed out, I felt stupid for staying, I felt weak for saying the words "once a cheater always a cheater"<p> Here I am in recovery.
You can make it too, you are not alone.

Bridgett, Please do not let yourself feel like a fool. I know exactly how you feel and after 23 yrs. of marriage can hardly believe that my H was unfaithful. You are not a fool to say that you love him. I love my H too, but what he did is so disgusting and hurtful that I feel like an idiot for staying with him. For better or for worse, I meant it, and this is the "worse". You can get through it, your relationship will never be the same, but then you did not choose the circumstance, you just have to decide how to live with it. I will pray for you. Ladysing

Bridgett, I too was a very strong person. I believe God allows many situations to show us how weak we are and how much we need Him.
"God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble."
I know the pain your going thru.
I know you may not want to hear this but, we all have been unfaithful to the Lord, yet He loves and forgives us. He wants us to do the same.
I pray God gives you the strenth and peace to make it thru this. May the Lord shine in your heart with forgiveness. In Jesus name, Amen
Mark

I pray that God gives you strength, comfort and wisdom. May you do whatever is most pleasing to Him, and let Him give you the ability to do so. I know the thoughts going through your head, they went through mine too. My husband, this special, Christian, wonderful faithful man committing adultery? It can seem too much to bear, I pray that God will be your guide.<p>Evensong

I too felt as though I was stupid, blind, a fool, etc. I think that these feelings are common when you find out that the person that you trusted and believed in the most betrays you in the worst way possible. I pray that you will be able to be the strong person that deep down inside you are. Stand strong and fight for what is right and what you and your son need. <p>One thing I want to say is that you are not stupid for standing by the person that you love. We all make mistakes. If you can find forgiveness in your heart for the betrayal that you husband has put you through then do that. If he is willing to work on the marriage and try to build that trust back again, then fight hard. You don't have to please anyone but yourself. Don't do anything for the sake of someone else.<p>I will keep you in my prayers. I hope that the pain sill subside. Remember that God is here to help you get through this. Lean on him.

Bridgette,
Just checking on you. I know the pain that you feel and pray that you are comforted by our Lord. If you have not been reading over on the Infidelity board, I encourage you to do so. Many people there have been where you are and can offer support. Prayers to you, Ladysing