Brief history...<p>WH has been in log term off again/on again A. Tried to move out last summer, then lost his job and had to move back home ( he was only gone two weeks) During that time, he started contact with OW again, they had been 'off' for about 6 months. When he came back home, she stopped contact and we started counseling with Steve. Since then, H has been going to classes to change careers and has not been making any money. <p>We have been doing a great job (I thought) at the exercises and 'plan' that Steve has for us and are MUCH closer than we were. Tragic discovery Tuesday night that H is back in contact with OW. Says he checked on her a couple of times in the fall and they just started talking more from then. Now thinks he cannot put her out of his life and wants to move out. Steve told him during our counseling session on Thurday morning that he has to get out NOW because he is killing me. <p>I know that he has to leave to find out for himself that he truly misses me and our children (S - 13 and D-10), but so soon after I thought that our marriage was getting better has got me in the spins.<p>H is truly lost and needs the help that only God can give him. We plan to talk tonight and firm up the plans for him to leave and how to tell our children. <p>Please pray for strength for me....I have been going through this for so long that I feel so tired and ready to give up<p>for my H....that his heart will be open to seeing the pain that he has caused me and is about to cause our children and that he will finally realize that his relationship with the OW only causes pain<p>for our children....that they never have to endure the pain of their dad choosing another woman over them<p>that God will truly be with us tonight and always as we try to follow His will and listen for His direction<p>May you all be blessed by the love of God and feel His presence when you need Him most.

Deb, I'm so sorry about the discovery. I will pray for your family and that the Lord will have a hand in the decisions that you make. I hurt reading your request that he will not choose the OW over his children, they do not deserve that. You are in my prayers and I pray that your marriage will be restored. Bless you, Ladysing