Okay this will seem like a very weird story, but I do want some advice on it! It's not about me, but about my male best friend (I'm female).<p>I got married in April, and best friend was highly upset. He felt like all of his friends were getting married and he was being "left behind". Well he decided to marry the girl that he was seeing shortly after we got married. He wasn't sure if this was the "girl for him" or not, but decided to go for it. They set a date for December, but ended up pushing it forward to June (I believe). I say that, because I'm not sure. They eloped and his own mother was not invited!!<p>I have not seen or heard from him since I got married, even though I have left repeated messages on his answering machine. I talked to his mother tonight for 3 hours!! After they got married she made him sever all ties to his family, our church, his friends, his education, etc. His mother believes that he is now "broken" and knows that he is no longer himself. She thinks that he made a mistake and while not condoning divorce (our church looks down on it) wants him to correct it. She feels that if her son tried to leave his wife, the wife would cause him physical harm. The wife has thrown "fits" before and gone crazy when his friends have gone to visit him.<p>I decided that enough is enough. I am planning on contacting him and trying to get him out of the situation. I am the ONLY person that he could ever honestly talk to and I know that he would listen to me. If possible I would like to go in and remove him without her ever knowing what was going on. I have researched annulments and breaking a lease on their apartment. I am worried about his health and his happiness.<p>I know mostly I just needed to get this off of my chest, but if any one can advise me on annulments I would really appreciate it. He is one of my bestest friends and I only want to see him happy. Not miserable. My husband stands behind me one hundred percent and that's why I love him.<p>Any advice?? If not please pray for my friend. He can really use the prayers!<p>Love and God Bless!!
Janice

My Advice is to keep praying for best friend, and let the situation go to God. Theres nothing you can do. I would also advise you to keep focused on your own marriage. The devil seeks whom he may devour and he has seemed to take a special liking to destroying christian marriages , no matter how good they may look.
Mark

Hi Mark,<p>While I don't want to be rude, I did have to reply. My focus is NEVER off of my own marriage. My husband and I are firmly commited to each other and that includes working on helping my best friend. My husband stands behind me 110% on whatever I feel is necessary to help this situation. He is wonderful, because he could act like most men and be pouting about the fact that I want to help out another man. But he knows the amazing things that my best friend has done for me. My best friend was there for me through two VERY bad relationships, my husband only came into my life (for the second time) after the second relationship. And I plan on helping him up if he has fallen and wants the help. I spent most of last night preying to God on whether I should act upon what I believe is right. I do believe that I am acting as God would hope that I would. We believe that my best friend's wife may not be completely stable mentally. My best friend's mother believes that if he realized that he made a mistake and tried to leave his wife that his wife may cause him physical harm or worse. So I do choose to stick my nose into the matter. I can apologize to him later if I made a mistake. If I don't step in, and he wants to leave and she hurts him ... I can only be ashamed later. Worst case senario, if she kills him ... I'll never get the chance to say I'm sorry for not butting in.<p>If you are worried that I am stepping into God's turf as far as their marriage goes, I can tell you that I don't believe that God was present at my best friend's wedding. Why? Because his wife would not let him get married in our church or get married by our minister that baptized me and my best friend. His wife will not allow him to attend our church and I know that this has broken him as a person. My husband and I aren't from the same religion, but we do not infridge upon each others beliefs. We got married in my church by my minister, but completed a set of counseling sessions at his church. We got married with God standing with us at the alter that day. He holds my beliefs up high, and I show him the same respect. We have struggled with these, but we know that in the end we are completing his work. My best friend's wife doesn't have the same respect, so therefore if need be the marriage will be annuled. I don't agree with divorce, but I do know that if he didn't know about her mental stablity and found out about it later he does have the right to have the marriage annuled.<p>Sorry if this offends you in any way, but I did have to get it off my chest. I was insulted by what you had to say in your reply to my request.<p>Love and God Bless!!
Janice<p>PS And just in case - I did not mean that you have to get married in a church or by a minister for God to be there. But I do believe that for a couple to be married in the eyes of God, they both have to have the belief of God and love for God in their hearts. I have yet to see either of these things in my best friend's wife. I apologize in advance to anyone that may have misunderstood my belief about marriage before God.