My husband of 3 years and I have just separated (now 4 days apart). He says he is stressfree without me & the kids, yet he started smoking cigarettes the minute he was gone because of stress. He says he still loves me its the kids not listening & doing what they are told that is making him want the divorce. He has never grown up - he has been in rock & roll bands since his teen years, drugs & alcohol apart of his life until he met me & I asked him that if he wanted me - he had to give up the drugs. He agreed, until last New Year's Eve I found out the past years were all a lie, he had continued to use the drugs. I let things go & told him to get help (counseling,etc.) and we could try to work things out. I'm confused now & not sure whether I want my marriage or if it will just be the same thing if we got back together. Please advise & pray for me. Thank You

Stady,<p>I don't really know what to tell you that would help. This is truly a very difficult situation, and my heart breaks for you and your children.<p>I will pray for you, for your family, and for your H. He needs to stop all drugs and alcohol. YOU cannot make him do it, he has to want to do it for himself. In the meantime, you CAN work on making yourself stronger, more independent, and become closer to God. He is there, and He wants to love you and care for you in His perfect way.<p>May God Bless,

Thank you for your prayers, I am working on Me went to the Drs. and was put on an anti-depressant. Am feeling a little better about what is going on & am coping a little better. I still would appreciate any prayers for myself & my H in that maybe our marriage can be reconciled and that he will at least talk things through. Thanks for all your support.