In February it was revealed that my husband was having an affair. After the revelation we both decided to try to rebuild the marriage. Before the rebuilding could start it was revealed that the OW is now pregnant w/ my H child. We were going to begin to start trying to have our own family later this year. Although I have filed for divorce and my husband realizes that he can not ask me to stay and take on this responsibility w/ him, we both desperately do not want the marriage to end. I am unsure how well the marriage can survive knowing that there will have to be contact with the OW and also how hurtful it will be to see this child and know that it is not a part of me. My H is choosing the responsibility for this child because he himself was raised without his own father (he left when my H was only 2 years old). So please pray for peace in this matter and help me realize just what God is asking of me.

DazedDawn,<p>The pregnancy forum will be very good for you for getting advice and venting your feelings. The people there are going through very similar circumstances. My was preg w/ OC but within a couple months she miscarried. No, I didn't pray for that but it is a huge load off our plate. Just draw close to the Lord and He will lead you.<p>Father I pray that You would be with this couple as they work out their differences and may they see You and seek You. I pray the best for their M that You would open both their eyes to see how to best handle this situation. Comfort the week and broken hearted, IJN. Amen.

Thank you so much for your concern. Unfortunately I don't think that this marriage is going to pan out. I have been trying to find it in me to deal with the whole situation, but it seems that evertime I begin somehow something happens. This time I looked at our bank statement and 1 month ago he recharged a calling card that he claims "not to have". I know that this is his way of staying in contact with her. I believe that he will always sneak behind my back. It seems that no matter how much love and support I give him it is just never enough. Thank you again for you prays. I just pray that I can withstand this pain.

DazedDawn,
I know the pain of discovering new things that tell you the A is still ongoing, it is a very hard thing. Your H isn't looking to your feelings obviously when he does things of this nature. I want you to know that lies and deciet are the A, it comes as a package deal. It sucks for us BS' but it is also deception from the enemy that blinds our WS' to see only the positives of the A. Deception is sometihing that can not be seen coming, right now your H has been decieved. And you are the one hurt by his deception, please know that you are not in this alone. <p>I know for me the only thing that got me through the pain and frustation and anger and doubt, etc. was to go to the Lord and to the Word. You will not go wrong trying to better yourself and drawing near to God. Know that God is very close to the broken hearted, all He asks is that you go to Him. If I could recomend 1 more thing it would be to keep your eyes off your M and try to simply put them on the Lord, which is often not a simple thing to do. When the enemy comes in like a flood the Lord will raise up a standard against him, I believe that the "standard" is the Word, like Jesus would should qoute back the Word to the lies. I am praying for you my sister.<p>May God bless you in your journey,
knight

Knight, Thank you so much for continuing to reply. You are right, I do need to take my eyes of this M right now and fully focus on God. It has been so difficult to let go. Thank you for your continued prayers and I will continue to update. Dawn