I definitely need the prayers of everone right now!
i found out about 3 months ago that my H has been having an affair with an O/W. and possibly seeing others on the side. well, the truth is about to reveal it self in the form of a baby. i am at the poitn where i don't know what to do. stay and deal with the infidelity and the results of it. Or divorce which i do not believe in.
I pray at least that there is no child in picture.. at least that will give us a better outlook to start with <img src="graemlins/teary.gif" border="0" alt="[Teary]" />

I am so praying for you. I just found out myself 3 months ago that my H was having an A. Unfortunately at the same time we decided to work through the whole ordeal the OW called with the revelation that she was pregnant. He later confirmed the pregnancy by going to see her and make her prove it to him. Needless to say that we are both devastated. The confirmation of the pregnancy is almost 3 weeks old now and I am still having a hard time with it. We cried so hard for the first couple of weeks. I started moving my things out of the house because I just couldn't bear the thought of having this OC in our lives when we were going to start trying to have our own baby this year. I have confused my H a great deal due to constantly changing my mind and the rollercoaster of emotions that I am going through. I moved my things out the other day even though I don't want to leave this man. Our mediation for our divorce is set for 6/25. The thought of this OC is so hard, but the thought of not being with my H is even harder.
Do you have children of your own? I know exactly how you are feeling right now and my heart goes out to you. If it makes you feel any better there are plenty of people here (including myself) that are going through this exact same thing. You are not alone. Come here often and vent as much as you like. My prayers are with you through this emotional time. Is there any hope of a reconciliation with you and your H? God Bless you both and stay strong.<p>[ May 15, 2002: Message edited by: DazedDawn ]</p>

Well, my H has said that he wants to stay in our marriage because he believes that it is where he should be. i am however having a difficult time with deailing with the pregnancy on top of finding out about the affair. we have been trying to have our own children for a year now and have experienced 2 miscarriages. so this feels like a betrayal. i do love my H with all i have. i just don't want to be the "bad guy" by saying you need to make the choice. at this point he said that he will call (with me there) the O/W and let her know what he has decided. i jsut don't feel that he wants to tell her because then she has threatened to terminate this pregnancy. and probably after us trying so long, he feels that we will never have one of our own.
please pray for us

I don't know how yall can deal with these O/W with pregnancies. Why were they having unprotected sex anyway?<p>One hubby is afraid that the O/W may terminate her pregnancy. Hmnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn<p>I think these wives are better than me!

Freshie-
I don't know how us women deal with ow and pregnancies either. I just know that I didn't ask for this affair in the first place and now this is the consequence of that affair. I also know that I love my H and that I said vows in front of God. Although my H broke those vows, I live by those vows. I wasn't perfect in our marriage and I know that I contributed in some way to the breakdown of the marriage. This is the hardest thing that I have ever had to face in my life. It hurts to stay, but it hurts worse to leave. I am between a rock and a hard place and don't know where to go.<p>Queenmoe-
My prayers are with you. I know how bad this hurts, believe me. I am so torn about what to do myself. I get sick thinking of him with her and knowing now that "my child" is inside some tramp, kills me. I am staying at my parents now, and I woke up this morning and realized that I am forgetting what it feels like to be married to my H. We haven't seen each other in a week, but have talked a few times. All I can say is that it is too soon to make a decision. That is what everyone on this site tells me. If you really love him and believe in your heart that he wants to stay in this marriage and he will do whatever it takes to prove that to you, I would say "keep the faith". I will continue to pray for some clarity in all of this for you, as I hope you will do the same for me. You have a "sister" in this whole mess, just concentrate on taking care of yourself right now. Take care, Dawn<p> archer5@juno.com FEEL FREE TO EMAIL ME IF YOU WOULD LIKE.

THANK YOU FOR YOUR PRAYERS DAZEDDAWN! I WILL CONTINUE TO KEEP YOU IN MY PRAYERS AS WELL1
TONIGHT IS SUPPOSED TO BE THE NIGHT THAT HE TELLS HER WHST HIS DECISION WILL BE. EITHER WAY I FEEL NUMB TO ALL OF THIS RIGHT NOW! YESTERDAY I ASKED HIM TO LEAVE AND HE SAID THAT THIS IS WHERE HE WANTS TO BE. WHAT IS WRONG WITH OUR HUSBANDS... DO THEY FEEL THAT THEY CAN HAVE THE CAKE AND EAT IT TOO...?? WELL I WILL LET YOU KNOW IF HE DID THE RIGHT THING..OR NOT!

Good Luck to you! I am realizing now that my marriage is over. I have been out of the house for a week and he went out of town Wednesday-Friday, Friday-Sunday and had the nerve to call me today to ask if he could take the newer car because he had business to take care of. What he meant was that he was going out of town again. Whether he is spending time with the tramp, I don't know. I called him back today and told him that he did not need to call me if all he wanted was the car. He says that that is not the only reason that he calls, which I am sure is a total crock. I told him how hard all of this is for me and that I missed him and I certainly did not need to know that he went out of town again. He apologized and said that he should not have called, but the damage is already done.<p>I just can't believe how easy all of this is for him. Just a couple of weeks ago he was balling his eyes out about the whole thing and now he is partying it up because he is a free man now. I hope the S.O.B. falls flat on his face. He has completely destroyed my entire life and it does not even cross his mind. He has a restricted driver's license because of a dui he got one night when he was with her and he drives around without a care in the world. I am just hoping that he doesn't get arrested again or loses his job before I can get the hell out of here.<p>Sorry to have brought all of this on you, but I just wish he would leave me the hell alone, because it is obvious that he will never change. <p>NOTHING WAKES HIM UP!!!<p>
[img]images/icons/mad.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/mad.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Take care of yourself and I will be praying for you.<p> Dawn

well, last night once again... we had an argument regarding when he was going to tell the heffa that it was over... but i got the shock of my life...i was told by him stop pressuring him into something that he is not comfortable doing yet... and all i am doing is thinking of MYSELF! so this morning before i left for work i packed my stuff...i don't know where this will lead but I SURE DON'T WANT TO BE THE ONE PRESSURING ANYONE TO DO ANYTHING...WHO THE HELL DO I THINK I AM ANYWAY...
I will keep praying for both us...only we know how it hurts right now!

You know, what the hell is it with these guys anyway. What the hell do they expect from us. They are so selfish. They have completely ripped our lives apart, but yet they feel we are asking the unaskable. I am so frustrated with the whole thing. I just don't give a rip about any of it. Like a said last night, my H is having a great social life right now even though the S.O.B. knows that I am dying inside. I am so sorry that you are going through this. It is so unfair to both of us. I pray that we can both muster up the strength to take care of ourselves and just let the chips fall wherever the hell they want to. I will continue to pray for you and I will pray and hope that your H gets his head out of his fanny and see the light, for crying out loud.<p>BE STRONG WOMAN!!!! [img]images/icons/tongue.gif" border="0[/img]

Queenmoe, please post in the pregnancy/child section of the board. There are so many women there dealing with the same thing as you and Dawn are and can offer you lots of advice and support. My prayers go out to both of you.