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Hello all
My wife of 13 yrs and I are currently seperated,"her choice" I have been verbaly abusive
I lashed out in anger because I/we didnt know about this site or how to meet each others needs.
She says she doesnt want a failed marriage and then in the next breath she says she doesnt know what she wants, we have been seperated for only 3 weeks but it seems like forever I truly LOVE Her and want to make this marriage last a lifetime, so I started taking counseling and enrolled in an anger management class and bought 3 books by Dr. Harly "so far" But last night when I took our daughter home to my wife, she had a male friend over, and didnt even want to talk to me. Needless to say this knocked me for a loop. 2 weeks of depression therapy shot to heck. She says he is only a friend from high school and that he is involved with someone else and I don't need to worry, but I can't help it but worry. My depression is so bad now that I am thinking suicide again, something that hadn't been on my mind since the beginning of this seperation. Yes I attempted it when she first left me, now my doctor has my medication increased and has me in therepy group. So if all you wonderful people out there could pray for my wife to decide what she wants and pray for me to have the strentgh to stay alive I would be gratly appreciative.
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I haven't visited this site for a while, so I'm sorry that this response is so long in coming. Rest assured that there were a lot of people that can identify with your situation. IF your marriage is important, stick to the counseling, no matter what is going on. Also, focus on things that you know for sure...don't get side-tracked obsessing about things (like the guy at her house) that may mean nothing. Focus on the 'big picture'....establishing new behaviors and priorities.Help your wife heal from the hurt of your words. After being treated like crap for a long time, she's not going to heal in a short period of time. Things like seeing a guy at her place are a 'rubber hits the road' time for you. Are you going to react as you have in the past? or will you now step back a little and be kind?
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