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I am so lost. Confused. Anxious. Angry. Humiliated and have never felt so ashamed and unforgiving of myself. My chin drags the floor on a daily basis.
I hate my situation. Despise it. I am so sorry for my hurtfulness toward my ex. I wish I could go back and save what I have destroyed. His spirit, his soul, his happiness and dreams.
I know I do not deserve one ounce of happiness for the rest of my life. I am just asking for a little peace--for my heart not to hurt so badly any longer.
Not much, just a little smidgen.
Could someone please keep me in the back of their mind for just a partial second to remember me in their prayers today or any day?
Thanks...
Wen

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I'll remember to put in a word for you - if you put in a word for me !

I ain't been doing so hot today either.

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Hey Wen,

Just want you to know that I'll be praying for you. Every Wed. a bunch of us fast pray for others on this forum. Just wanted to let you know you're included. Let us know what happens with you this week ok?

As you have already figured out, you can't turn back the clock. But you aren't doing yourself any good by beating yourself with what has happened. I know you don't feel good about what you feel you've done. But don't let past mistakes determine who you are as a person. You're still special. God sees you as a worthwhile person and loves you.

I'm not sure where you are regarding your relationship with God, but he's never far from you and eagerly wants you to get close to him. He can give you the comfort you need now. Since he already knows everything about you, tell him how you feel and let him give you peace and rest. Also, pray for you're ex. But before you do that, ask God to forgive you, and forgive yourself. Stop beating yourself up. You will get through this. And keep letting us know how you're doing.

Praying peace for you.

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Wen,

I just prayed for you. I believe God came to earth in the form of Jesus Christ. He experienced
what its like to be human and felt joy and also pain. Thats why I believe he understands how we feel. I never imagined I could hurt so bad with emotional pain, its seems almost too hard to bear doesn't it. Do you have a personal relationship
with Jesus? I don't want to get preachy here but let me know if you do or are interested.

I will be praying for you. Let us know how you are doing and if you are feeling any relief.

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Wen,

How are things going? Are you feeling any peace in your situation. Please let me know if there is anything specifically I can pary for.

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Wen,

As I was worshiping in church sunday, you came to mind and I prayed for you. Just wanted you to know. I hope you are well.

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Wen:

"I am so sorry for my hurtfulness toward my ex."

As I hope he is sorry for hurting you.

"I wish I could go back and save what I have destroyed. His spirit, his soul, his happiness and dreams."

You've done none of these things. He's reacting, rather negatively at times, 2 your own reactions 2 perceiving he wasn't caring for YOU. Yes, you had an A. But so is he.

"I know I do not deserve one ounce of happiness for the rest of my life."

This is absolutely untrue. You deserve all the happiness in the world, and right now! Remember though, that we as individuals are the ones ultimately responsible for our happiness.

"I am just asking for a little peace--for my heart not to hurt so badly any longer.
Not much, just a little smidgen."

This will take time, but you will get there!

"Could someone please keep me in the back of their mind for just a partial second to remember me in their prayers today or any day?"

I will be thinking about you 2 and your future!

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Wen,

You still out there? How are you doing?

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You're in my prayers Wen :-)

I Love You.

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Wen, Have not heard from you. Are you still here? LW

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Wen has stopped coming to MB. She loves the OM and continues to be with him. She needs to find her way and I somehow need to find a way to survive.

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Wen,

Just wanted you to know you are still in my prayers! LW

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Wen,

Just wanted you to know you are still in my prayers! LW

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Keep them coming for Wen. I think she could use a little strength today!

Wen's impatiently waiting X who hopes to not be an X anymore <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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Wen and Mowl, you are both in my prayers. God is so faithful even when we are not, give all to Him that He may get you through these times. My prayers for you are that both of you will seek Him first, and let Him have control of your lives, because when we give our all to God, He gives us His Best, God Bless you both.
Please stay in touch with us that we may know in which direction to pray for you!
Love in Christ, SW

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Dear Lord,

Please save this marriage! Please bring healing, reconciliation, and forgiveness.

I call upon you in behalf of Wen and her husband and I claim all your promises. You hate divorce and it is never your will for a marriage to end that way. Lord, please do not let this marriage end in a way that brings you sadness and that brings them sadness. Please do a new work in their lives and in this marriage!

In you, there is hope! In you, there is life! You can bring life where there is none. You can bring hope to a hopeless situation such as a pained-filled marriage and that is what I pray you do in this marriage!

Lord, remove this other man! Physically move him to another state if that's what it takes! I pray that he would become repulsive to Wen! I pray that her heart would be filled with love for only her husband and that her husband would be filled with love for her. Bring them back together Lord. Help them to forgive each other and to forgive themselves.

I pray that you would do what seems impossible. Lord, fill Wen's heart with your love and your peace. May she fully repent and turn to you and in so doing, turn to her husband and be welcomed by his unconditional love for her. I pray that is what he will show her.

Sustain them both, Lord. Give them strength and wisdom and courage to do what is right. Do not let them be utterly destroyed but lavish them with your love and grace drawing them to you.

Lord, again, I earnestly & fervently pray that you would remove this other man from Wen's life. I pray that she would look at him and feel disdain for him. I pray that she would flee from him and never turn back. And I pray that you would heal her from the hurts that cause her to turn to this man. May she see herself as you see her and may she know that there is hope in you and that her marriage can be restored!

Lord, give this husband strength to wait upon you. Give him deep love for his wife. Help him to forgive her. May he be slow to anger and quick to forgive. May he become the man you desire him to be. Lord, comfort him, and reveal to him anything about him that he needs to deal with, to change, or to repent of and then help him to do what needs to be done.

Lord, in FAITH, knowing that you can do what seems impossible, I pray this for this couple. Give them many more years of blissful marriage together. Father, please do this for them. Please heal, restore, reconcile, and renew!

Lord, I also pray that Satan would have no more influence on their lives and their marriage. In the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, I command that Satan and his demons FLEE and have no hold on Wen or her husband! May they both FIGHT temptation and lies and Satan's trickery. May they cling to the truth of your Word and may they OBEY your commands to love each other, to honor you, to keep their marital vows. Where they have been deceived, Lord, open their eyes to your truths. Including their views of themself. May Wen be repentative and humbled, but not defeated or destroyed. May she KNOW that with you there is forgiveness and mercy. May she see who she is in you.

Lord, I pray all of this in the name of Jesus knowing that you can do immeasurably more than we can even ask for or imagine! (Eph. 3:20).
AMEN!

Wen... and Wen's husband... it is not over yet! God is in control and he wants to give you life abundantly. He can do all this and more!

Put your hope in Him. Be fervent in your prayers and be in the Word so that you will be strengthened. Seek counseling... individually or together. Be involved in a good church and allow the body of Christ to embrace you during this time so that you will not be alone! You need people to help carry you through this (Godly people)-- real people too (not just internet people! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> ). It will not be easy at all, but nothing in life is easy (esp. for a Believer), but it is through suffering and trials, that we grow and mature and gain character. Persevere and do not give up on yourself, each other, or your marriage! The Lord will bless your efforts and desires to do what is right.

May God bless you! HANG IN THERE!!

Your New Marriagebuilders.com Friend,
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"Call upon me in the day of trouble; I will deliver you, and you will honor me." Psalm 50:15

James 5:16 "Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective."

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Wen, How are you doing?

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Wen and MOWL....You are in my prayers too. I have been praying for you two. I have said a few times on here that I know God is going to restore your marriage.

Wen....I know just what you are feeling. The shame,hurt,unforgiveness you have for yourself, is sooooo hard to live with. Just remember that if your husband can forgive you and truelly wants to reconcile then you have crossed a major hurdle in restoring your marriage. The best part is GOD has forgiven you already. Your situation gives me so much hope of what God can do in our restoration hopes.

Just remember that we are praying for you and most of all cheering for you to make it. If you noticed I put your marriage on the prayers answered list on our prayer thread.

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Wen,

We still care about you. Just wanted you to know. LW


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