For a while now I have distanced myself emotionally from my wife. I am very lost and confused about what to do about my marriage. I would like the love and affection that I once felt about her to return to me. I would like to learn to accept her unconditionally

EBJ~~I am standing in prayer w/you THIS day in the Name of Jesus! It is my prayer that you surrender these issues to the Lord, trusting and believing that He will work them out! That he already has! I speak blessings into your lives THIS day in the Name of Jesus! Keep your chin up, yet head bowed in prayer! God Bless You EBJ!

ebj,

Dear Lord,

I pray that the love and affection that this H had for his W returns. Show him ways to get emotionally connected with his W. Bring hope to his heart that his feelings can return. In Jesus Name, Amen.

e, I posted on your other thread too. Are you medically healthy? I happen to know that clinical depression can make you not feel love and affection for your spouse. Not knowing your whole story I don't want to jump to conclusions. Have you talked to a physcian or counselor? LW

Yes I am depressed. I am being treated with two medications that are not working very well

Father God, I agree with others who are praying for ebj--You are the author of love. Renew his emotions so he can reach out to his wife again.Thank You that You are more than able to do this.

Ebj, it's good that you want to love your wife. Be patient. Depression is a difficult illness but there is hope. Sometimes the med take time to kick in or you require an adjustment. Don't be ashamed of that.

Do you feel up to doing things for your wife like taking her on dates and doing little favours? I know life can be overwhelming (just recently healed of depression myself--suffered for years) but it's worth the effort you put in to do things to bless others.

May your hope and health increase.

EBJ... are you seeing a good counselor? Christian one? And in church? That is very important. We really need the church body and without that, loneliness can be a reality that can also leave us depressed. Have you shared how you are feeling with your wife in a gentle, kind way?

I will pray for you and say one other thing. Don't be confused about what to do about your marriage! Stay in it!! Even if you feel no love. Do what is right and don't leave. Get help from counselors, pastors, and the church body. God can help you and you will have to be patient and persevere for awhile. The blessings of your perseverence in this marriage will far outweight the remorse and guilt you will feel if you end it. He can bring you through this!

Do you and your wife date? Are you overworking? Are you eating healthy and exercising? Are you praying and in the Word? There are many things you can do. Your situation in NOT hopeless. Do not give up!!

Here is my prayer for you...

Dear Lord,

Please help EBJ. Father, heal his depression. Bring him joy and renew his strength. May the enemy have NO victory whatsoever in his life or in his marriage! Lord, I rebuke Satan right now and claim your promises for EBJ!

You have said that you hate divorce. Please, do not let that be a temptation for EBJ.

Lord, give his wife compassion and understanding. Give her wisdom. May she also do the things she needs to do to make her attractive to her husband. And if there are things she is doing to cause him to feel unloved or depressed, Father, please reveal those things to her so that she will change and repent of them.

May EBJ be filled with your holy spirit so that he will be filled with love for his wife. Strengthen him so that he will persevere through this difficult time. Surround him with Godly counsel and an abundance of loving friends who can help him.

Heal any hurts between them. Restore the love they once had for each other. Lord, give EBJ your peace and your joy. Give him rest. Be near him and may his marriage be one that will bring you glory and will bring him joy!

I pray this in the name of Jesus,
AMEN!

God bless you EBJ! Hang in there Brother! Keep us posted!!

Your New Marriagebuilder.com Friend,
Debbie <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

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