About two years ago, I accepted a salaried position as a supervisor in a large petroleum refinery. There were many other candidates for the position, some of which were more qualified than I was, but HR decided that I matched a leadership profile and I was offered the job. At first, there was a lot of resentment from other employees from the area which I managed that had also applied, but had not been offered, the job that I had accepted. I worked extremely hard and soon earned the respect of my superiors, as well as some of the employees that had resented my promotion. I have always been somewhat of an introvert and my new job only served to magnify the my failure to meet my wife's emotional needs. Late in September, I found out that I had contracted genital herpes from my wife. She admitted to an affair, along with a one-time sexual encounter, with a man that she met at our city's library. I was emotionally devistated. I began to visit this site and read a couple of Dr. Harley's books on the subject of infidelity. I began to see how my actions, or lack of them, helped to open the door for my wife to have an affair. We have been in recovery ever since then and our marriage, as well as our communication, are much better now than they have ever been in the past. I still struggle with resentment and love busters, but things seem to be getting better on a daily basis. I would greatly appreciate any prayers for our family. We have two children, my son is nine and my daughter is 7, and I have really been working hard to meet my wife's emotional needs. Thank you for your prayers.
