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my wife of 16 years is trying to get a restraining order served against me.....
friday without warning should took the kids and disappeared........ you can see my post for a stay at home day, in the dirvorcing and also infidelity post.......

i came home from begrugendly spending the night in a hotel with my brother.... to find my locks to my house changed....
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have not heard from my kids in 3 days...... or wife either.......
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i just would like to ask for your prayers and thoughts to get my family thru this tough situation, whichever ways it works out....
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god bless

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Father God, I pray in Jesus name that you would heal this man's family and his marriage Lord. I pray that You would speak to his heart and that You would guide his steps to become the man You want him to be. I pray also that You would be with his wife and kids no matter where they are Lord, You see them and we pray that You would watch over them and bring them home.

Robert, the Lord watched over and brought my wife home after being in the middle east for 6 months, He can bring your wife home too. Very few wives run like mine did, but I wanted you to know that even if all looks hopeless, the Lord can bring your family back together. We have been in recovery now for 9 months and we are at a great place in our marriage. If I can recomend anything it would be to talk to God like He is right there, for he is, and allow Him to speak into your life. God bless you my friend.

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<small>[ January 26, 2003, 09:54 PM: Message edited by: knight?mare ]</small>

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KNIGHT?MARE-- Praise the Lord for your testimony!! It encouraged me because my husband and I have been divorced since October and are across the country from one another yet I am praying fervently for our marriage to be restored... no matter how long it takes. I am thrilled for you and your wife! May God bless your relationship!!!!

ROBERT-- I am not sure all the details of what has happened in your marriage for your wife to reach this point, but I echo knight?mare's words-- the Lord can bring your family back together! He is the God of the impossible and He is more than able to turn hearts, to heal broken relationships, and to restore love. Perhaps he is using this terrible crisis time to draw you to him. And your wife as well. He is going to be the only one who can get you through this. And He can.

I have added you to my prayer list and will be praying for you. I believe the Lord is using this to get hold of you, Robert, to work in your life to mature you into the man He desires you to be. If your wife has a restraining order, then she has fear and/or great anger towards you. I believe God wants you to repent from the sins you've committed in your marriage so that He can forgive you and restore your marriage into a wonderful, beautiful marriage fulll of love in which you will be able to share with men what He taught you through this.

Seek Him! Pour your heart out to Him. Humble yourself before Him and repent of your sins so He can heal you. Pray fervently for your marriage and be in the Word so you can find strength, wisdom, comfort, and encouragement to help you in this time.

Nothing is to difficult for Him and no sin is too great for Him to forgive either! He loves you deeply and He wants your marriage to last forever... just as you vowed it would. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> But Satan wants to destroy your marriage because in so doing, he will hurt you, your wife, and your children. You are in a battle and it is a spiritual battle in which you must fight with spiritual weapons: prayer, the Word, faith. Remember, you are on the front lines and you will get bruised and wounded and bloodied in this fight, but GOD is on your side and you have the most powerful weapons available to you-- use them and do not fight with the world's weapons (worldly logic or advice, lawyers, courts, etc).

Also, do not fear because God is greater! However, if you are sinning and doing things that are not God's ways... if you do not respect the restaining order or if you become hateful, etc... then you will be fighting the world's ways and you WILL lose your wife for good because she will only become hardened.

God can soften her heart and you also can soften her heart by the ways you treat her. You are going to have to allow yourself to be mistreated right now. You are going to have to suffer. Remember Christ in your suffering because He also suffered for those He loved (loves).

YOu will be tempted to demand your rights or to seek vengence or to "get even", etc... but God tells us to bless our enemies, to do good to those who hate us, to bless & not curse, and to allow Him to defend us.

I truly believe that if you humble yourself, if you respond with kindness and respect to your wife, if you understand her pain and seek her forgiveness, if you trust God and do not point out your wife's sin but concentrate on your own, if you do not try to convince her otherwise but allow God to change her heart and allow yourself to suffer for the time being.... I truly believe that she will soften and have compassion for you and that God will work in her heart.

I realize that may seem like pretty "radical" advice and of course, I do not know all the details, but I do know that God can see you through this.

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God bless you and you are in my prayers!

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